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This is a re-release of Season 7 episode 9 with Gretchen Miura.
Gretchen and Sarah run Lighthouse Circle together, and cohort 6 is now open. You can read more here - https://www.sarahfuruya.com/grief-support-lighthouse-circle-2025
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Listen to Sarah and Gretchen talk about Gretchen’s life story and how following Dragons became a golden thread in her story. We touch on grief and how it weaves into full life story. It is part of the fullness of a life lived and expressed. Below is the original podcast that prompted the whole Lighthouse Circle as we spent the entire conversation talking about Gretchen’s loss, when she was 5 and her big brother, Chris was 17.
Gretchen is outstandingly generous in her storytelling and we uncover a string of coincidences that led to this being called the ‘Legend of Dragons’.
This is a re-release of Season Three Episode One of the Legends Podcast with Gretchen Miura & Sarah Furuya.
This was the genesis of the Lighthouse Circle Grief Support group. We are now open for Cohort 6 - https://www.sarahfuruya.com/grief-support-lighthouse-circle-2025
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Introducing Gretchen Miura Legend of Healing. Gretchen is a mindfulness teacher, avid maker and mother of four. Originally from New Jersey in America, Gretchen lives in northern Japan on the Oga peninsula where she and her husband run a Zen temple. She hosts mindfulness retreats, classes and workshops in English, as well as traditional ceremonies and activities for the local community. She sells her handmade bento bags, face masks and accessories at her online shop SORAbento. She is living a life focused on creativity, belonging and connection.
This episode is dedicated to Chris.
When Gretchen was 5, her 17 year old brother died in a car accident. This is the backdrop of her life since then. In this conversation Gretchen takes us on the journey of Chris, his death , her family, religion, and her path to acknowledging, dealing with and healing the suffering attached to her loss. And in fact the family loss.
We talk about Catholicism, Buddhism and try and tease apart the humanity of grief and loss, of joy and living. How her 4 children taught her so much about her brother, through the tenderness of the relationship of her youngest daughter and oldest son.
Gretchen and her temple and family are quite well known and she has appeared in an NHK documentary about her temple and the people around it. She is something of a celebrity in the area!
This is a deep and rich conversation that goes into the depth of grief, the rituals surrounding death. All the way to the end more and more learnings come out between us and we will have a part 2 later in the year because we didn’t even touch on Gretchen’s hilarious journey to being the parent of 4 and married to a Zen priest in a remote peninsula in Northern Japan!
- The surprising joy the has come from meeting her grief
- Having authority over the suffering
- The first and second arrows of loss
- That’s all there is! Hear her thoughts on enlightenment
- Facing and dealing with grief creates fertile ground for magical experiences
- Grief, love, life and ritual
- How her children brought her closer to connecting to her brother
- How faith brought the family through Chris’ death yet she struggled to connect with that same faith
- How she connects and can continue to connect with Chris
- Incidents that allowed stress to be dissolved
- We have to take of one another
- Universal truths and satori
Links & where to find her here:
Dairyuji Temple Instagram
Dairyuji temple in Oga Akita
Zeb Soto Sect
Poet Laureate Joy Harjo
Online Shop: Sorabento
Griefworks by Julia Samuel
The word I was scrambling for is ‘flippant’.
In this deeply moving and thought-provoking episode of the Legends Podcast, host Sarah Furuya sits down with the miraculous Matthew Dons, a figure who has not only transformed his own life but has profoundly impacted the world around him over the past eight years. This is the final episode of Season 8, themed Skin in the Game, and it brings a powerful close with insights on life, death, and the miraculous experiences that shape our journeys.
In this episode, we discuss:
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About Matthew
Matthew Dons is a marketing consultant and business coach from the UK. He has been living in Tokyo since 2007.
Matthew came to Japan to study traditional Japanese martial arts. His other hobbies include baking, studying the history of technology and watching 80’s films.
In July 2016 Matthew was suddenly diagnosed with terminal cancer, also known as stage 4 cancer. The cancer had spread a lot so his life expectancy, with treatment, was just 7-9 months. Although crowdfunding and cutting-edge immunotherapy have helped him live almost 8 years so far, he’s still in a life-and-death fight every day.
Although Matthew is very cynical, he was genuinely shocked to discover there’s no serious effort in any country to stop people dying of cancer. This is despite the fact cancer kills around 10 million people every year, and it destroys the lives of many more people. It’s a brutal disease, with equally-brutal treatments. Experiencing this firsthand motivated him to set up the non-profit Make Cancer History.
Make Cancer History connects patients, oncologists and researchers to share cancer knowledge and save lives.
Connect with Matthew & Donate
https://www.matthewdons.org
https://www.makecancerhistory.jp/
https://www.makecancerhistory.jp/donate/
Connect with Sarah
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/sarah-furuya-creative
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Release from daily bullshit is fertile ground for creative freedom, frank talk and advocacy. Also good men, creative forces and the usual rabbit hole of musings with Sarah.
In this episode:
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, we’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Head over to Apple Podcasts to leave a review and we’d love it if you would come and say hi over on @sarahfuruyacreative on Instagram.
Connect with Sarah
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/sarah-furuya-creative
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahfuruyacreative/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarahfuruyacreative
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXsuS_yVT9fMHjhAylVy8-w
This week I sat down with the remarkable Sarajean Rossitto, a force of positive change in the nonprofit sector. With a wealth of experience and a passion for empowering communities, Sarajean shares her journey, insights, and the pivotal moments that have shaped her career.
Sarajean and I could have talked for hours. She truly is a legend of influence, impact and social change. Currently based out of Tokyo, Japan, hailing from New York State in America, with her ancestry in Italy we talk about the influence of her Italian side (which relates to my Liverpool side) on her way of being in the world, in this conversation and her commitment to hope for the USA.
Sarajean and I met in 2008 at a Career Strategy Seminar run by FEW, For Empowering Women in Japan. It was like a baptism of fire meeting her and all the other incredible women in my midst at that point and it was a pivotal event in my life. Little did we know that just 4 years later we would be the President and Vice President of the same organisation and forge a fiery and loving relationship that would endure to this day.
Not only that but we, along with another good friend whom we met at the same 2008 career seminar, would be the Ladies of honour for previous Legends, Angela Ortiz Pettas and her husband Nicholas Pettas. Seriously, you couldn’t script this stuff - all three of us met Angela through different channels too. It’s just the Ordinary Magic.
Sarajean is a courageous and committed activist, who puts her passion for social impact ahead of her own image. She is at the forefront of what needs to happen next and does not necessarily have lofty ideas about world-changing activity, but focuses on what she CAN do in her own sphere of influence and networks.
She holds lecturing positions at Temple University Japan and Sophia University largely focussed on social change initiatives. She is continually proposing new courses, based on the latest information available.
NPOs, News outlets and social impact groups all seek out Sarajean’s counsel and consultation to better serve their clients, and communities or in order to communicate correctly. I wonder how she remains hopeful, something that I sometimes have difficulty with and she explains this in the show.
I was interested in this based on her work with American politics. She does not underestimate the influence that the 38 million Americans living outside of the 50 states can have in elections and as such she works to influence and impact those voters. Much like Terri McMillan, legend of Humans who also got involved in canvassing.
Sarajean has a vim and verve that is hard to resist. She is terrific fun, a trained chef, skilled orator, actor and director and loves fiercely. Her optimism has nothing to do with toxic positivity but a firm foundation of hope and belief that small differences can have an impact that will help humans.
“I am not necessarily a happy person, but I am an excited person”SJR
I will definitely invite Sarajean back for round 2 because we didn’t touch upon her art, the plays she has directed and appeared in and her support of and promotion of local drama groups.
Here are some gems from our conversation:
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About Sarajean
An accomplished presenter and workshop facilitaror, Sarajean provides project, event and training program coordination, and advisory services for educational institutions, international organizations, nonprofit organizations, and corporations to enhance understanding, better tackle communities’ needs and have a positive social impact. Their work centers around developing skills, knowledge and effective partnerships between organizations and across borders. In Japan and elsewhere, Sarajean has worked with grassroots and international organizations on programs impacting disaster response and preparation, gender, poverty, inclusion, human rights, conflict mediation, community health, cross cultural communication, at-risk youth, gender-based violence, persons with diverse abilities, and HIV/AIDS. Sarajean currently teaches about such themes at Temple University Japan Campus and Sophia University. A life-long activist, Sarajean works with US citizens across the globe attempting to impact US policy.
Connect with Sarajean
https://sarajeanrossitto.wordpress.com/
Connect with Sarah
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/sarah-furuya-creative
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Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXsuS_yVT9fMHjhAylVy8-w
Note: I have decided that my listeners are not simpletons who require a certain format in order to comprehend or process the information. I’ll be assuming from now on that people can find their way round the information without a formulaic, memeified format. I know I know that we humans like things to be the same or else we can get a bit uneasy. But I thought, what if it were easy? Humans also like novelty and uniqueness. So the SFC formatting may be different each time, based on the mood in the house and also on the output of the guest.
In this episode of Legends Podcast, Sarah Furuya delves into the themes of "Saunter & Frolic", "Creative Musings" and "Slowing Down".
Sarah shares her reflections and experiences over the past few weeks, discussing the inevitability of celebrity influence and the impact it has on our daily lives. She candidly recounts an incident involving a partially recorded session and the challenges of staying focused amidst interruptions. This episode promises to provide listeners with an insightful and engaging exploration of creativity and personal musings.
In this episode:
and more....
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, we’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Head over to Apple Podcasts to leave a review and we’d love it if you would come and say hi over on @sarahfuruyacreative on Instagram.
Connect with Sarah
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/sarah-furuya-creative
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahfuruyacreative/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarahfuruyacreative
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXsuS_yVT9fMHjhAylVy8-w
Once again, Skin in the Game is described as taking some kind of risk; in Stevens' case in service of the art, the music, the listener, the singers, and himself. In service of the third entity; the actual entity that sits with a life, between all these individual entities. And being vulnerable in the name of authenticity and in the name of creating the very best experience of the music for all the players.
Being a conductor and a composer is a special niche of humanity, yet it relates to any of us who are trying to bring things together in the service of beauty, art and muse.
You will also hear the peculiar habits of non-Japanese in Japan who pepper their language with Japanese words without a second thought and also how we tend to mix and match, forgetting our English words from time to time!
We talk about the Muses, the Greek Chorus and the concepts of time Kronos and Kyros, Kronos being the currently culturally popular time of linear time; the time of clocks and calendars; it can be quantified and measured. Kronos is linear, moving inexorably out of the determinate past towards the determined future and has no freedom. Kyros is numinous. Kyros is a time of festivals and fantasies; it cannot be controlled or possessed. Numinous means "arousing spiritual or religious emotion; mysterious or awe-inspiring"; also "supernatural" or "appealing to the aesthetic sensibility”. We muse on how the art emerges from these numinous timelines and the conditions one can create in order to nudge the muse or to find one’s way into creation. Steven tells the story of how after 7 months of being unable to finish a score, from the outdoor bath of the local onsen, a visitation had him scurry home to complete his work of art. I wonder how I or we can create these conditions for creativity to enter, or for the muse to deliver the next piece of our art.
Steven describes himself as ‘the Young Sheldon’ of music, compelled to challenge authority figures if he thought that there were teaching inaccuracies.
Steven also talks about Darma - something he studied with a Swami who coincidentally lives ten minutes from me in Zushi (I’ll chalk this up to the Ordinary Magic). This is not a popular or well-known neighborhood at all.
Back in the world of Kronos Time, Steven has done many many tens of thousands of hours of musical devotion, starting at music school, where he sang at least 7 times a week and where the academic tutors were told to never give more than 30 minutes homework to these choral students, lest their practice be interrupted. While Steven described this as ‘enlightened’ he also acknowledged there may be downsides and it put me in mind of neurodivergent folk getting accommodations in school or in work. Enlightened - bending time and rules in service of the output.
One way to lead a life is through scarcity - through the expectations of others, which is not necessarily a bad thing, but could be vexing to the Spirit. Another way to lead a life is to follow your heart, but the intuitive promotions of the heart and the other ways to lead a life is to listen to everyone else
I know that I get really creative every time I get on the train to Tokyo, sometimes even almost missing my stop as my creative mind works in Kyros, but those pesky trains run on Kronos! Rest, Water, and Transition. Creating conditions for emergence of art. Travel could be typified as the in-between time. Neither here nor there; betwixt and between. A liminal space affording the muses a channel by which to enter our consensus reality.
We talk about the technical elements of music and in addition to the physics of vibrations, the mystical, soulful, impact that these have on our sacred selves. Jonathan Goldman does a lot of work around tones and healing through tuning forks and frequencies. I am very careful with the word healing but am reporting Steven’s commentary on his research into a rainforest Shaman and how he observed that through musical vibrations that were delivered via ancestors a shared sense of their expectations perhaps a placebo effect that helped facilitate the collective healing of the patient and the family. Rhythmic drumming and chanting at certain frequencies. He looks at it from the musical and mystical elements. One thing I can take away is that music is part of us, an ancestral and indigenous part of our human experience.
Finally he describes this examining ritual events through two interpretations of the same thing as enlivening.
ENLIVEN
This episode is a wonderful compassion piece to the previous episode with the magical Kwan Chan, Legend of Essence and dancer and singer song-writer.
We get into:
Having two interpretations of the same thing is enlivening
The winds of Grace are blowing but you have to raise your sails
Help people to trust.
If there’s even a small thing you wish you’d done along the way, find a way to do it.
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, we’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Head over to Apple Podcasts to leave a review and we’d love it if you would come and say hi over on @sarahfuruyacreative on Instagram.
About Dr. Steven Morgan
As a career educator with nearly 50 years of experience, Steven Morgan has taught music and English as a second language in diverse settings. His journey has taken him from the heartlands of Illinois and Michigan to the multicultural landscapes of Minnesota, British Columbia, and Japan. He has enjoyed working with students aged 5 to 85, from kindergarten through graduate school. In each of these contexts, his guiding principle has remained constant: he does not teach English, music, or anything else—he teaches people. This philosophy is also the cornerstone of his additional role as a certified HeartMath® mentor. He is also a practitioner of Garden of the Heart Therapy and Psychic Reiki.
His professional activities also extend to a lifelong romance with musical performance as a conductor, composer, singer, and pianist. For the past 25 years, he has led the Tokyo Embassy Choir, an international ensemble of dedicated amateur musicians. He also serves as the conductor of the Chiba International Singers, a group committed to singing a wide variety of pop, jazz, folk, and other genres of music. Through these roles, he has shared his passion for music while contributing to the betterment of their communities.
Links
https://www.healingsounds.com/
ANATOMY-OF-A-TEAR-JERKER.pdf
Cecilia Bartoli Cecilia Bartoli The Greatest Coloratura Mezzo Soprano (Soprano for some) of all times
Dubra Duo Seraphim Dubra: Duo Seraphim
Connect with Steven
https://www.embassy-choir.org/en/
Ai ga subete / 愛がすべて, conducted by Steven Morgan
Concertino for Clarinet and Strings, conducted by Steven Morgan
Connect with Sarah
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Kwan Chan - what a man! He is so humble and genuine, I felt peace talking to him. He has this lovely childlike essence coupled with an absolutely mature and mindful approach-building skill and he has incredible body strength - check out his YouTube channel to see his breaking. Skills that apply not only to dance but all areas of life. It was just the conversation I needed to have. Sage wisdom from this fierce and gentle soul. And deep creativity.
I was blown away by his answer to my final question “There are many ways to lead a life - what does that mean to you?"
It’s more than enough to provide quality and value to the people you reach.
In this Podcast you will learn:
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About Kwan
Kwan Chan was born in Hong Kong and grew up in Toronto. In September 2023, after working in Japan for seven years, Kwan moved to London, UK, to pursue a Master's degree in Dance Movement Psychotherapy at Goldsmiths, University of London. Kwan is a breaker and has been breaking for more than 17 years. Additionally, Kwan is a singer-songwriter and plays the acoustic guitar. In London, Kwan continues to train, compete, and teach breaking, remaining quite active in the local breaking scene. As a singer-songwriter, Kwan frequently performs at open mics throughout the city. Kwan also works part-time in a primary school as a school mentor, providing counselling and supporting students with their mental and emotional well-being.
Links
Apache Sugarhill Gang https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vQObWW06VAM
Give it up and turn it loose James Brown https://youtu.be/921kqkHOHDo?si=u0SN1BJdKZdg42gX
Just begun Jimmy Castor https://youtu.be/WylCcdTrzS4?si=Zkv1UQ0mksWwW1s4
Connect with Kwan
Website: www.kwankchan.com/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/kwankitchan/
LinkTree: www.linktr.ee/kwanchan
Facebook: www.facebook.com/kwanchan91
Connect with Sarah
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/sarah-furuya-creative
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahfuruyacreative/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarahfuruyacreative
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXsuS_yVT9fMHjhAylVy8-w
In this Creative Musings episode, Sarah Furuya shares her journey of dismantling old beliefs and societal norms, blending humor and insight to highlight the importance of slowing down and redefining success.
Key Highlights:
Join Sarah Furuya as she navigates the complexities of dismantling old structures, reimagining success, and creating a business and life resonating with her values.
Listen to the full episode on Creative Musings with Sarah Furuya and join the conversation on redefining success and embracing authentic living and don't forget, limited places but Join Us at the Saunter and Frolic Retreat July 26th to 28th, with Angela Ortiz Pettas.
Learn More and Register
If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, we’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Head over to Apple Podcasts to leave a review and we’d love it if you would come and say hi over on @sarahfuruyacreative on Instagram.
Links
Connect with Sarah
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/sarah-furuya-creative
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahfuruyacreative/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarahfuruyacreative
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In this episode, we do some serious reminiscing on the good old days when our salary automatically appeared in our account without any effort from us!
Skin in the Game to Victoria Close takes us on a time travel in the episode - into the past to Victoria’s teen business, we visit her early aspirations and how during the time she was selecting what to do. We also travel into future Victoria surrounded by artists and artisans, in a very special place and we dreamed up big, dense, thick, coffee cake that resists a knife.
The Northern British sense of humour comes through strongly in our banter and we have a good laugh at some of the more grandiose terms cooked up in our businesses. We also reminisce about our generation’s particular idiosyncrasies - how skinny jeans were something your Nan would create on a sewing machine. We also touch on GenX politics and the impact of Margaret Thatcher and a bit of working out of things around being a GenX woman with all our opportunity that was set up in the generations before us. Victoria is someone who embraces what she can handle, she is honest and humane in about being a woman is a wonderful mix of optimistic, pragmatic and hilariously cutting about toxic positivity! We laugh out loud a number of times on during this legend - it’s medicine.
Both Victoria and I come from long lines of artisans, a proud lineage whose respect got lost somewhere in the aspirational, but who are claiming their place, with out help. I would like to honour the copper etcher, the tripe seller, the master baker, the seamstress, the cafe owner, the silk weaver and the China painters of our ancestors. in the upwardly mobile aspirational class who might be proud of their fine china but would take no pride in one their own becoming such a manual worker, our paths were set to the academic. Generation by generation. We are reclaiming our magic and our lineage. Both of us are reclaiming our magic and honouring our lineage and the remarkable work of the artisans whose work got lost in the grip of economics.
We talked about the moment Victoria put her skin in the game, took the plunge, left the security of her full time teaching job and planned out how she was going to
Listen out for ‘Tales from the middle aged underwear’ where did that come from? When do we and don’t we want to PULL OUR BIG GIRL PANTS ON. And also if Marks and Spencer want to sponsor the podcast - please get in touch.
We love and honour #bromarketing
At the end Victoria shares a prompt, from #MarieForleo whose B-School we are both graduates from, and also puts a call out for something very specific that she is dreaming up - a dream I got into for her in the future. Listen out for her call - you may know or have something that could be of use. Sorry if you are a brilliant and committed manifester and watch the Secret regularly and vibrate at the same wavelength as pure gold; we are cynical, and YET, the list that she generated from that Marie Forleo prompt was made manifest. I mean she did it, but things happened.
Thank you, Victoria for sharing your Legend
Discover from Victoria
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About Victoria
Victoria Close is the founder, designer and maker at the vintage kimono jewellery brand, Bikudesigns. She creates one-of-a-kind jewellery and accessories using personally-sourced vintage and antique fabrics and other found objects. Victoria’s ‘mottainai’ mission is to save forgotten items from landfill by giving them new life. Victoria set up ‘Studio Biku’ in Shimokitazawa in 2023, a small Showa era atelier where she creates her jewellery, curates a tiny shop representing 12 Japan-based international makers, teaches creative workshops and rents the space to emerging artists and designers to teach their own classes. Victoria is a passionate campaigner for creative small businesses and has taught practical, in-person/ online small business courses as well as starting up Overseas Makers Guild, a free Facebook community established to support, connect and celebrate handmade business owners. She also mentors creative entrepreneurs in her one-to-one programs. Victoria is a long-time Tokyo dweller (for more than half her life) and lives with her British husband and two children in Shimokitazawa.
Connect with Victoria
WEBSITE: https://www.bikudesigns.com/
INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/bikudesigns/
FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/bikudesigns/
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@studio_biku
Connect with Sarah
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/sarah-furuya-creative
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahfuruyacreative/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarahfuruyacreative
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXsuS_yVT9fMHjhAylVy8-w
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