“Guilt, at its best, opens us up. It leads us outside ourselves and turns

us toward reconciliation with someone else. Someone who never feels guilt

is either Jesus or a sociopath; either they’ve never done anything wrong,

or they’ve never felt any remorse for it. Shame, on the other hand, is

never healthy. If guilt is the feeling that you’ve done something wrong,

shame is the feeling that you are wrong. That you’re not good enough.

You’re not strong enough or pretty enough or brave enough, rich enough or

tall enough or smart enough. Where guilt leads us to turn out toward

another person for forgiveness, shame leads us to turn into ourselves for

concealment.”