What if some of the things you think you should  be doing are actually getting in the way of what you want to be doing?

In this episode, I’m talking about the shoulds that can affect the way we feel about ourselves – from how we’re “supposed” to feel, to the stories we tell ourselves about what gives us worth and value.

I share a story about going live in my Facebook group in my pyjama bottoms, and the irony that nearly stopped me showing up to share a message about self-worth.

Tune in to find out why it’s time to give yourself permission to say sod off to some shoulds.

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What if resilience isn't about bouncing back?

In this first episode of Series 4, I’m challenging the idea that being resilient means a speedy recovery or carrying on as though nothing happened.

Because sometimes - most of the time - resilience isn't bouncy at all.

Instead, it can look like rest, patience and taking the time you need to gather yourself and top yourself up before you go again.

I share what one story of recovery from injury reminded me about resilience, and how the resilience we see and admire on sports pitches and courts is built through the preparation and practice behind the scenes that we don't see.

If September has you navigating change, uncertainty or a new beginning, this episode is a reminder that you don't have to bounce back to be resilient.

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After a 2 year break I’m bringing back the podcast series where we talk about what resilience really looks like.

The intro music may have changed but I’m still your host, resilience coach, Pam Cottman, and in each episode I’ll be sharing stories, reflections, ideas and practical tools to help you build self-belief, confidence and clarity, even when life gets busy.

So you’ll have a kinder, more realistic toolkit for navigating all the inevitable ups and downs of life.

The first episode of series 4 comes out this week so head to Apple, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts and follow Lessons in Resilience to make sure you don’t miss an episode.

Feeling the overwhelm as the end of term approaches?

You're not alone.

It’s the same feeling I get at the end of the working day,

Juggling work, family, and everything else doesn’t just feel like a lot. It IS a lot.

But fear not: in this last episode of series 3 you’ll find 5 tips to help tackle that overwhelm.

Hope you find them useful.

And, as it’s the last episode of this series, I wanted to say thank you – for listening, and for all of your lovely feedback and messages. I really love reading them, and hearing what’s helped you most.

See you in June for Series 4 of Lessons in Resilience!

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Inspired by a weekend with my uni mates, this episode is all about friendship.

What we spend our time doing and talking about may have changed (a bit), but after 28 years of knowing each other, what I love most about our time together is how it makes me feel (well, that…and the inevitable retelling of our funniest stories).

It’s no wonder that connection is a key component of resilience.

So get listening to find out more about the power of friendship and connection, and how to get more of it.  

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In this episode, I'm talking about a topic that often arises in client sessions (and my own life) - control.

From feeling powerless, and overwhelmed by others' opinions, to trying (and failing) to keep on top of EVERYTHING, it's often a struggle to find the middle ground.

But there is one. And in this episode I'll help you find it, by inviting you to think about what's within your control, and how to let go of the rest.

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This is the episode I've wanted to make since starting the podcast - and it's the one I've put off recording more than any other.

Because it's the most personal - you can hear it in my voice.

But I hope that sharing the lessons I've learned about grief over the past 20 years will offer some comfort to others - and remind them they're not alone.

Episode resources:

Cruse – bereavement charity – https://www.cruse.org.uk

Counselling Directory - https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/

Option B – Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant

Fortunately…with Fi and Jane – with guest

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/fortunately-with-fi-and-jane/id1220808096?i=1000542470744

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Ever wondered how to build resilience in your kids? You're not alone.

None of us were taught this stuff in school and most of us are just trying to figure it out as we go along.

So in this episode of Lessons in Resilience, I'm thinking about some answers and sharing 4 tips to help you help your kids (and yourselves along the way).

The Instagram accounts I mention in this episode are:

@drbeckyatgoodinside @dr.siggie @theteencoach @powerthoughtsnc and @annamathur 

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Welcome back to Series 3 of Lessons in Resilience! It's lovely to be back.

In this first episode of the new series, I'm talking about the power of the pause - and how to lengthen the gap between thinking or feeling, and responding.

Listen in to find out more about this one simple tool to build resilience, calm, and a sense of control.

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In this last episode of series 2, I’m ditching all the usual pre-Christmas questions about presents, holiday plans and finishing work.

What I really want to know is: how are you feeling?

If you're anything like me and most people I talk to, it's a combo of knackered, sluggish, ill (you/ your kids/ both), and fighting a strong urge to hunker down on the sofa with some Quality Street, preferably alone.

Turns out, there's a reason. According to a study (tune in

So, how do we cope with December sluggishness?

Listen in for 5 tips to help you ease the festive build-up,

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