Lessons Learned with Chelsea Carmel

Happy Election Day! Grab your LOVE shirt and your snacks, because today I'm counting down five things NOT to do while you wait in line to vote: don't treat it like speed dating, don't ask who they're voting for, don't show up hangry, don't narrate your life on speakerphone, and don't forget to check your polling place. All in fun, no sides, just love. Whoever you vote for, be kind in line. Repost love, not fear. 💕

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Last week God asked, "Ayeka? Where are you?" This week a listener answered. A gentleman wrote in after the Ayeka episode, moved that we spoke to everyone, no labels, all one in humanity. Then he heard Isaiah 6:8, a verse he had never read: "Here I am. Send me." In Hebrew, Hineni.Abraham said it. Moses said it at the burning bush. Samuel said it as a boy in the night. Adam hid. These people answered. With unrest all around the world, who will be the one? Whether you reach one person or a million, what will your message be?Have a dream, a verse, a red flag story, or a green flag win? Email [email protected] and you could be on the show.Don't have time to listen? Buy the book: lessonslearnedseries.comLet me help you help yourself. - Chelsea Carmel

A listener in his 50s asked me: how do I stop women from expecting a $300 dinner every time we go out? We went back and forth all week, from coffee dates that felt like job interviews to a dating profile with a Bentley in the very first picture. The answer? If you have it, you don't have to flaunt it. Show up with the bread, and find the one who brings the jelly. 🥜🍞🍓

🍷 This episode is also a drinking game: take a sip every time you hear me say "substance." Coffee counts! Have fun, because that's what life is all about.

Relationship expert for life, podcaster for three weeks. Forgive the bloopers! 😄

Shabbat Shalom to those who celebrate, and have a great Friday!

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Three yellow flags equal one red. Did you know that?

Not every flag is a deal-breaker. Some flags are yellow: the "hmm... side-eye" moments you can laugh off, write down, and keep an eye on. Today I'm counting down my top eight yellow flags from my book, from the trash talker and the rude-to-the-waiter date to the ChatGPT texter, the bar-instead-of-coffee first date, and the one who shows up with a steamer trunk full of baggage. One yellow flag is a note. Three is a pattern.

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I had the strangest dream. I was hiding in the snow, and two men kept looking for me. Their names were Eretz and Ayeka. Eretz means land, a place where you belong. Ayeka means "Where are you?"It's the question God calls out in Genesis 3, right after Adam and Eve hide. Not asking for a location. Asking every one of us, "Where are you in your life?"Today's Lessons Learned is bigger than a dating story. It's about the snow we hide in, learning to trust your gut again, and a love that holds every lesson we didn't learn. Wherever you are on this earth, you are being called in love. Come out of the snow.Got a red flag story or a green flag win? Email [email protected] and you could be on the show.Don't have time to listen? Buy the book: lessonslearnedseries.com

I thought it was a super mint. It was not a super mint.Mrs. Know-It-All, relationship expert, dated every man on earth... and I still had a lesson coming. A Saturday night glass of wine at the bar, a "mint" from my date's little box, and a night that went very sideways. The one thing I did right? I asked my sister to have dinner at the same restaurant.The lesson: never put anything in your mouth on a date unless you know exactly what it is, and always bring a buddy. As for him? DEF CON never see again.Got a red flag of your own? Email [email protected] and you could be on the show.Don't have time to listen? Buy the book: lessonslearnedseries.com

Two chairs. Two completely different people. One relationship that was never going to work.Chemistry gets you to the table. Compatibility keeps you in the chair. On this Green Flag Friday, Chelsea goes back thousands of years, to the Torah (Deuteronomy 22:10) and the Bible (2 Corinthians 6:14), to explain what being unevenly yoked really means. Hint: it's not pizza vs. steak or golf vs. pickleball. It's shared values, commitments, and life goals.Plus a real client story from the COVID lockdown, a faith-and-family example, and your Green Flag Friday homework: the five big conversations to have before your heart is all the way in.Have you ever been unevenly yoked? Email [email protected] to share your story. You might end up on the show. And every Thursday is Ask Chelsea Thursday, so send your questions too.Don't have time to listen? Buy the book: Lessons Learned from All the Red Flags We Ignored at lessonslearnedseries.com

Relationship expert for life, podcaster for three weeks, so yes, you'll hear me lose my place a time or two. I kept it in, because that's real life. It's the very first Ask Chelsea Thursday! A listener has been dating a successful, put-together woman for 60 days, and she's never once invited him over. When she finally does, the place is buried in laundry, boxes, and pet food. Is it a red flag, or just a woman stretched too thin? Chelsea shares real research from UCLA, Princeton, and DePaul on how clutter affects our stress and focus, and why we need to fix our nest before we fix our love life. All in fun, no judgment. Yellow, Red, or DEFCON? You decide.

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Dating in your 40s, 50s, and 60s is all online now, and profiles aren't always what they seem. Today Chelsea shares a friend's story: a cute guy, a cute dog, and an invite to walk the Katy Trail at 8 p.m. with a total stranger. Red flag or no big deal? Tell us in the comments. And guys, would you swipe on a woman holding her cat in her main photo?Get the book: lessonslearnedseries.comShare your red flag story: [email protected]

It's Red Flag Monday! This podcast is all in fun, no fingers pointed and no judgment, because if we can't laugh at our red flags, what's the dating life for? More of us in our 40s, 50s and 60s are dating than ever, and red flags come from every age and every gender. Today Chelsea tells the true story of the man who said "it's not an issue"... and the morning she woke up to find her whole refrigerator gone. Yellow, Red, or DEFCON? You decide.

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