The holidays can be lonely for a lot of people. There, I said it. Now we can stop pretending that everybody MUST have the same holiday experience. That's a holiday lie. A holiday truth is that you can have the holiday you want, IF you're willing to show love . What do I mean? Let me tell you a story. This is the Fable of the Christmas Songbird or how showing love can transform you.

WHY ARE THE HOLIDAYS LONELY FOR SOME?

Some people are lonely because they're single.

Some people are lonely because they wish they were single.

Some people are lonely because they feel they don't have anywhere to go.

Some people are lonely because they need some time at home, to think and plan for a better new year.

And some people are lonely because they have fallen for the hype of the fake lives being lived on Instagram and Facebook.

No matter the reason, the root of loneliness is a focus on self. Thinking back on Soraya the Songbird, please know that I am not minimizing anybody's experience. However, I believe that you can stop being lonely and have the love and the holiday you want, if you are willing to give love where it’s needed.

WHAT THE SONGBIRD TEACHES US:

Focus on the impact of your love, not on the target.

Expand your definition of family

Focus on what opportunities you have, not those you don't

Delight in the changes/impact sharing your love has on YOU

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Lessons on Showing Love from a Christmas Songbird

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Lessons on Showing Love from a Christmas Songbird

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