some go into shutdown and overwhelm - and can spiral into addiction

Whenever a loved one feels that something is "too hard" to deal with - it means that it has to be dealt with another way or by another person

eg - if they deal with their anger by shoving it down with cigarettes and whiskey - it will come out in disease

if you deal with your financial problems by ignoring them - then your partner or your bank will have to deal with it

This is also a time of shift in awareness for those who have played "rescuer"

Just like the old paradigm of the "abuser" is no longer infallible - the "rescuer" is no longer viable.. either