Fighting is hard work. Is there a better way? In this episode, I’m sharing insights on how shifting our perspective can lead to greater connection and co-creation. The narrative of opposing sides erases individuality and nuance while emphasizing that no one perspective can fully dominate or erase another.

By embracing existence as a whole and recognizing the infinite uniqueness within ourselves and others, we can move away from seeing life as a series of battles. Our interactions are opportunities for exploration and co-creation — where giving and taking create shared experiences.

Let’s dance together instead.

Thoughts?

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Does anybody feel like we are fighting for no reason? Fighting is a lot of hard work, and the idea of sides and opposition creates the illusion of two opposing monoliths. This narrative often erases individuality. Even within one side of an argument, individuals hold nuanced, slightly differing views. We all perceive the world uniquely, and understanding these individual perspectives is crucial, regardless of how similar or different they may seem.

When we view perspectives as part of a spectrum, the boundaries between sides blur. Winning and losing in conflicts don’t erase opposing perspectives; they persist in some form. It’s naive to think we can control or change others to fully align with our thinking. So, what’s the alternative? How do we reconcile differing perspectives?

One way is by embracing existence as a whole. Consider the infinite experiences and thoughts within yourself and those around you. Every person is a universe of unique experiences. Expanding this understanding to humanity as a whole reveals the vast diversity of perspectives in the world. As humans, our ability to consciously communicate is unique, but our belief in dominion over nature and others often disrupts this connection.

Ownership is another illusion. Even these words I speak now are shaped by your consciousness as you listen. If there’s resonance between us, communication flows; if not, that’s okay too. This reflects the natural reality we live in.

Instead of framing interactions as battles between winners and losers, can we explore co-creation? Co-creating means giving and taking to build shared experiences. While some things may upset us, denying their existence often reinforces them. Viewing life as an exploration allows us to open ourselves to new data and perspectives—not necessarily to change our minds but to acknowledge their existence.

Co-creation involves agreement and collaboration to build something new together. Sometimes, what we create isn’t ideal, but working together allows us to improve it. Reflect on your values: Are you here to struggle or suffer? Struggles teach us lessons that help us find joy and presence in the moment.

In daily interactions—whether in customer service, retail, or personal relationships—what if we saw them as dances rather than battles? Dancing requires movement, flow, and collaboration. Taking a step back isn’t losing ground; it’s part of creating something beautiful together.

So next time you feel stuck in a position or conflict, try moving a little—physically or mentally. It’s not about giving up space but about embracing the flow of life. Let’s dance with each other rather than fight against one another.

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