Why do we do it, when do we do it, and how do we stop doing it for good. Coexisting but conflicting needs create self sabotaging behaviors. This is why we resist efforts to change often until they feel completely futile. But by extracting crucial insight from our most damaging habits, building emotional intelligence by better understanding our brains and bodies releasing past experiences at a cellular level, and learning to act as our potential future selves, we can step out of our own way and into our potential.