What does a healthy sex life in marriage really look like?

In this vulnerable and biblical conversation, we break down God’s design for sex and intimacy in marriage, debunk cultural myths, and talk about how to build emotional, physical, and spiritual closeness with your spouse.

You’ll hear from experienced marriage leaders Darren and Bec about why emotional intimacy matters more than frequency, how porn damages connection, and the power of communication, vulnerability, and shared expectations.

⏱️ Chapter Markers

00:00 – Content Warning & Episode Intro

01:00 – How Important Is Sex in a Healthy Marriage?

05:30 – Emotional Intimacy vs. Physical Intimacy

10:00 – The “Stalemate” Dynamic in Marriage

14:00 – Serving Each Other Instead of Withholding

18:30 – Love Is a Choice, Not a Transaction

22:00 – Communication That Breaks the Cycle

26:00 – How to Talk About Sex With Your Spouse

29:00 – Sex Should Be a Thread Conversation

33:00 – Culture’s Lies & Unrealistic Expectations

36:00 – How Porn Destroys Intimacy in Marriage

40:30 – Rising Stats: Porn and Women

42:00 – Porn, Comparison, and Disconnection

45:00 – What Healthy Sexual Intimacy Looks Like

48:00 – Creating a Shared Vocabulary Around Sex

51:00 – Prayer, Faith & Inviting God Into Your Sex Life

54:00 – Final Thoughts: Get Help, Use Resources, Keep Growing

🛠️ Resources Mentioned:

Happy Marriage Book by Darren and Beck Chapman https://www.thehappymarriage.com.au/book?srsltid=AfmBOoolve7P__PSS7Dkc2kgpGKOW4hB20zyEQXrzTa_-ffh3c2K96on

“6 Types of Sex” - https://www.thehappymarriage.com.au/blog/six-types-of-sex