About 15 years ago you had to plan ahead to rape a woman, roadblocks, family members turning molesters and all. These days we find that these perpetrators are amongst us, friends we drink with, colleagues after a late night etc. And it's getting easier to be the victim. Now more than ever even the perpetrators do not know when they have crossed the line. Here I explain the spectrum of rape/molestation and how there are really no grey areas. Also a plea to some ladies on how to avoid some avoidable situations. PS: This is referring to the particular trend of repoorted rape cases ongoing on Nigerian Twitter now, I understand some cases happen in unavoidable circumstances.