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Ever been a victim of bullying or suffered the ramifications of addiction? Then this episode is for you. On this special episode, my husband Marcel and I explore the landscapes of abuse and addiction, and their rippling effects on families. We paint a vivid picture with anecdotes from our past, paired with relevant statistics, to help you understand the different forms of abuse - physical, mental, and the often-disregarded manifestations in areas like academic performance.

As we dig deeper, we take a turn toward the societal impacts of abuse, focusing on the pervasive issue of bullying. Sharing our personal encounters with workplace bullying, we highlight the systemic changes needed to tackle it. We also delve into the power of words and the concept of trauma-informed care, both crucial to mental health and workplace dynamics. Marcel offers a heart-rending perspective on how his family's battle with addiction has shaped him, reminding us of the widespread impact of addiction.

Tracing the roots of addiction and abuse to childhood exposures and genetic influences, we share our personal struggles and the arduous but essential task of forgiving our past tormentors. We shed light on our healing journeys, and how they have sculpted our lives. We end this episode by inviting you to consider your own upbringing, the impacts of your parents' backgrounds, and the importance of forgiveness. So, buckle up for a profound exploration of abuse, addiction, and the complicated journey towards healing and forgiveness. Come along, and let's brave these tough waters together.

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Have you ever found yourself questioning the weight of a college degree? Join us as Caprie explores this topic with Jaylah, a soon-to-be college graduate, who's as honest as she is entertaining. Navigating the highs and lows of college life, we reflect on her journey, stumbles, and triumphs. Hear her share stories that are as real as they are hilarious about college roommates, and learn how she combated homesickness by building meaningful relationships. 

What happens when your world is turned upside down and your dreams seem nearly impossible to achieve? Caprie opens up about her struggle with illness, academic probation, and the loss of financial aid that forced her to put her dreams on hold. Yet, her resilient spirit shines through as she talks about balancing work and education, and her eventual pivot to a different career path. You'll also hear about our thought-provoking debate on the necessity of a four-year degree, and how single-mindedness can often limit our potential. 

As we conclude the first season, we take a moment to reflect on the incredible conversations and diverse range of topics we've covered. From exploring college life and transitions to challenging traditional perspectives on education and career paths, it's been quite a journey. Stay tuned for our next season where we plan to delve deeper into stigmas and mental health issues. So until we meet again, remember to be kind to one another and keep the conversation going.

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Ever wondered how self-worth and personal strengths shape everyday lives? Buckle up as we, Caprie and Jaylah, embark on an enlightening journey to unpack these concepts using a fascinating framework proposed by Professor Christoper Mruk on types of self-worth. We take you along as we introspectively identify our strengths and discuss the power of acceptance, particularly during challenging times.

From an interesting chat about personal interests and strengths to examining how control in organizing can be a source of motivation, we weave in real-life examples to make these concepts relatable. We’re not just talking about it, we are living it! From the joys of simple things to how our love for Marie Kondo and organization shows, we reveal our unique strengths and how ancestral wisdom might be linked to our need to do things hands-on.

Finally, we delve into a captivating exploration of how others perceive us, the influence of compliments, and the crucial role of maternal figures in shaping our self-image. Plus, we ponder upon how laughter can be a powerful tool and how a lack of dependency on others can build strength. Come along, join us on this riveting journey as we recall our favorite school classes, and our inspirations, and discuss how our passions have influenced our lives – it’s a journey you don’t want to miss!

Resources:
Mind.org - https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/self-esteem/about-self-esteem/

Stark Wellness - https://www.starkwellness.com/25-powerful-questions-to-develop-your-self-worth-pdf/

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What if you had a secret roadmap to navigate through the complex labyrinth of modern dating? Buckle up, because we're about to chart a course through an intricate exploration of the gender dynamics, shifting expectations, and evolving norms that are redefining the world of dating. Join us as we venture into an animated conversation about a man who leaves a woman with the bill on a date—a story that unravels thought-provoking viewpoints on entitlement and the currencies of dating.

Confidence, as they say, is the key. But how does it play a role in flirting and dating? Let's decode the mysteries of the perfect approach, the magic of eye contact, and the importance of celebrating male energy in relationships. We share anecdotes, observations, and advice, serving up a potent cocktail of dating wisdom. Along the way, we tackle the complexities of changing gender roles and the paramount importance of open communication in relationships.

As we draw towards the end of this enlightening journey, we drift into the more somber aspects of relationships. Living together, setting boundaries, dealing with the end of a relationship—each has its own unique challenges. We impart insights on handling these situations with grace and ensuring a healthy, honest dialogue when things aren't working. Our conversation wraps up with an exploration of the importance of therapy, understanding your partner's sexual history, and moving forward post-breakup. Get ready to uncover truths that might change your view of modern dating forever, and join us for a ride through the exhilarating and sometimes bumpy road of love and relationships.

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Parentification, a term touching the very core of some of our shared experiences and a complex subject that brings up a whirlwind of emotions for us. What happens when children are thrust into adult roles prematurely, carrying a burden that should've been left for their later years? Join us, as we pull back the curtain on our own lives, exploring the dynamics of our mother-daughter relationship marred by the confounding roles we've had to play. 

From Jaylah juggling roles as a sister, daughter, and an unexpected mother figure to her younger siblings, to the emotional impact of caregiver absences, this episode dissects the raw intricacies of our family dynamics. We delve into how Jaylah's grandmothers' declining health forced her into a premature caregiving role, and how Caprie's resentment of her own imposed adolescence has shaped her relationship with Jaylah. We also explore the various effects of parentification and how it can echo into adulthood, leaving long-lasting impressions.

As we journey deeper into this challenging subject, we underscore the importance of family bonds, the painstaking process of rebuilding them, and the striking impact adult conflicts can have on children. We shed light on the significance of knowing one's family, while emphasizing the necessity of maintaining boundaries during tough conversations. By candidly discussing mental health in the black community, unhealed trauma, anxiety, depression, and the need for open conversations, we aim to help others grappling with similar situations. Listen in as we navigate this deeply personal journey and explore resources related to parentification and its effects.

Resources: 

What is Parentification? https://www.newportacademy.com/resources/mental-health/parentification/#:~:text=Parentification%20occurs%20when%20a%20child,child%27s%20physical%20and%20mental%20health.

Parentification: Types, Causes, and Effects: https://www.verywellmind.com/parentification-types-causes-and-effects-7090611

UCLA: Parentification Assessment: http://chipts.ucla.edu/wp-content/uploads/downloads/2012/01/Parentification_0.pdf

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Have you ever embarked on the rollercoaster ride that is love and relationships? Well, let us tell you – you're not alone! I’m Caprie, and with my co-host, Jaylah, we’re taking you on a journey through our personal stories and experiences. We'll discuss everything from the illusion of love at first sight to the importance of self-discovery and maintaining your identity even when you're head over heels in love.

Ever heard of the concept of 'three great loves'? Let us dive into this intriguing theory and how our encounters with puppy love and intense love have shaped our understanding of it. We'll also touch on the impact of age on relationships and the controversial idea of setting deadlines for life milestones. We'll also reveal our thoughts on modern dating norms, including who should foot the bill on a date and why a little research before committing to a date can go a long way! 

Now, let’s get down to the juicy stuff – cheating, breakups, and the complex dynamics of making the first move. We’ll be putting the spotlight on some of the differences in men's and women's perspectives on these matters and the different stages of relationships. Trust us, you don't want to miss our unforgettable dating stories and the valuable insights we’ve picked up. So plug in your earphones, sit back, relax, and let’s navigate this labyrinth of love and relationships together! We promise you an invigorating, enlightening, and downright entertaining conversation. After all, who said conversations about love and relationships have to be boring?

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We promise you an enlightening journey as we unravel a small portion of the complex world of mental health. Ever felt drained by certain individuals, like energy vampires sucking away at your vitality? Learn some tools to identify and manage these negative influences, especially within challenging environments. Journey towards a better understanding of the negative impact of energy vampires and how to keep your boundaries strong against them. 

Ever wondered about the significance of apologies in the healing process? We share personal insights about acknowledging our hurts and the necessity of forgiveness in the journey toward well-being. We also venture into the complexities of recognizing patterns and the power of intuition when something doesn't feel right as we delve into the importance of setting boundaries and the role of self-forgiveness in healing from trauma. 

In this episode, we navigate the often-overlooked issue of mental health in schools and workplaces. Not sure how to handle difficult conversations? We offer strategies to navigate those tricky dialogues, emphasizing the importance of understanding power dynamics and the harmful effects of microaggressions. We'll also touch on the importance of self-care in maintaining mental health. So please pull up a chair, plug in your headphones, and join us for an engaging, candid discussion on mental health. You won't want to miss this!

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Have you ever felt the deep emotions left behind by losing a loved one? Join us as we traverse the rough terrain of grief and loss. We open our hearts and share how the passing of cherished ones has etched profound changes in our lives. With no roadmap or timelines for grief, we all stumble toward acceptance, the final stage, after denial, anger, bargaining, and depression.

Life seldom leaves us time to mourn. Our daily routines, relationships, and responsibilities often fail to accommodate our need to grieve. In our candid conversation, we shed light on how grief seeps into our everyday lives and relationships. From personal experiences to collective wisdom, we underscore the importance of compassion, patience, and the support of our communities as we navigate the murky waters of loss. We urge ourselves and you, our listeners, to extend grace during these testing times and respect the unique ways each person copes with their grief.

The bond between a parent and child forms the bedrock of our lives. The untimely demise of a parent can shatter this foundation. But even amidst grief, a ray of hope shines - the opportunity to restore bonds, to heal. A poignant part of our conversation also nudges you to express your love and gratitude towards your loved ones now, rather than be tainted with regret later. As we wind up, we leave you with resources to aid you on your journey towards healing and acceptance. So tune in, for a heartfelt conversation about grief, loss, and healing.

Resources:
The Process of Coping with Grief and Loss - Psychology Today : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/everyday-life-simplified/202109/the-process-coping-grief-and-loss

SAMHSA's National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline

Helping Someone Who's Grieving: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/helping-someone-who-is-grieving.htm

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Have you ever taken a moment to reflect on your childhood memories and the ways they impact your personal growth? Well, we've done just that in this episode of our podcast. Alongside Jaylah and Caprie, we journey into the labyrinth of the past - the playful times making cinnamon rolls, the pangs of shifting living arrangements, and the intricate dynamics of parent-child relationships. We also touch on how tools like the ACEs quiz and emotional neglect test can shed some light on our trauma scores, but remind you that these results aren't the final say, but a deeper look into the diversity in parenting styles and experiences and how those play into childhood trauma and the work to be done. Please find those links below if you are interested in reviewing your own scores.  

In pursuing personal development, we take you on an emotional journey where Jaylah and Caprie confront some of their deepest fears and worries. Caprie opens up about her ongoing quest to cultivate positivity and communicate more assertively. In contrast, Jaylah shares her instinct to turn to her mom for comfort and sometimes Dr. Phil to solve life's weightier issues. Together, we navigate the fragile balance of living in the now without losing sight of the future where healing and growth reside.

In the final part of our journey, we delve into family dynamics, reflective moments, and the role of trust in mother-daughter relationships. We share intimate conversations about our parents, what we'd change about them, and the qualities we believe make a good parent. As we journey through this critical exploration of family relationships, trauma, and personal development, we aim to provide an illuminating, heartwarming, and thought-provoking conversation. Tune in, lean back, and let's journey together.

Emotional Neglect Test:https://psychcentral.com/quizzes/childhood-emotional-neglect-test

ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences): https://numberstory.org/explore-your-number/?gclid=CjwKCAjwjaWoBhAmEiwAXz8DBYTeeo4vjsL5MrEof48wtJaa3koSlD2eMt3s3uBTlVw58e12PCAhsBoCfTgQAvD_BwE

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Growing up in East Palo Alto, I found myself on an unexpected journey into teenage motherhood. Amid the complex mix of youthful expectations, relationships, and music video-inspired fantasies of love, my world was rocked by an unplanned pregnancy. However, a nurse's profound words may have turned my shock into anticipation for what became a miraculous journey. 

Navigating through my own story, I explore the vast gaps in sex education for young women and the impact it had on my life. I painfully recall grueling confrontations regarding my pregnancy and how these experiences starkly contrasted with Jaylah's. The conversation steers towards the compelling need for comprehensive, honest sex education for young individuals that moves away from fear-based tactics. 

In the later part of our exchange, I candidly discuss the trials of co-parenting, the insecurities Jaylah's father may have grappled with after the arrival of his second child, and the subsequent family dynamics. This episode provides a raw insight into the neglected child syndrome, parental favoritism, and the frustrations of absentee fatherhood. I reflect on the mental impacts of teenage parenting and how it shaped my understanding of love and relationships. This conversation serves as a beacon for all teenage mothers - remember to surround yourself with love and support and allow yourself grace when faced with adversity.