Better Beliefs

Letting Go of What Hurts: How We Heal After the Unexpected


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When life blindsides us, we don’t just remember what happened — we remember how it felt.
In this episode, Brent sits down with Nick, a father whose children survived the Nashville school shooting, to explore not just the event itself, but the quiet, complicated, deeply human process of healing that followed.

This isn’t a story about giving advice.
 It’s a story about how humans process the moments we never saw coming — the big shocks and the smaller emotional bruises we collect along the way.

Nick shares:

  • What happened the morning of the shooting
  • What his body felt before his mind could make sense of it
  • The blur that followed in the days and months afterward
  • The internal reset that saved his marriage
  • The unexpected ways his children showed strength
  • How returning to the school became part of their healing
  • And why some memories stay alive until we decide to release them

Alongside Nick’s story, we explore the neuroscience of trauma, how the brain stores painful events, why time feels strange after something life-altering, and what it really means to “let go” of memories that no longer serve who we’re becoming.

This episode is for anyone carrying something heavy — even if it’s not “big enough” to call trauma — and wondering why it still lives inside them.

Healing isn’t just about moving on.
 It’s about learning which memories to keep … and which ones to finally set down.

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Music Credits

"Land" by ANBR

"Espionage" by Solis

"Corals Under The Sun" by Yehezekel Raz

"Apollo" by Rotem Cinamon 

"Hallow" by Steven Keech

"Ea" by Hans Johnson

"Contemplative Question" by The Tennessee Pistols


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Better BeliefsBy Brent Kocal