Lex Be Real

What does a "normal" polycule look like? How does masculinity show up in polyamory? Does your attachment style affect how you practice polyamory?

Today's guest, Joseph Rawlins, is a longtime friend and now a kink and poly friendly therapist in Jacksonville, FL. Joe and I met years ago within the Jax polyamory community, and I'm so excited to let y'all hear his story and gain so much good wisdom from what he's learned—both as a human and a clinician! We chatted all things scheduling in polyamorous relationships, navigating jealousy, compersion, and what masculinity means to someone who has spent years deconstructing and redefining his own :)

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TW: Mental health crisis/self-harm. Please feel free to skip this episode if it may be triggering, and please refer to the resources below if you need help:

-Call or text 988 for 24/7 support if you're in crisis

-Call 1-800-662-4357 or visit ⁠FindTreatment.gov⁠ for 24/7 support and referrals to mental health treatment facilities

What's it like going from polyamorous to monogamous? What can polyamory teach monogamous people? Is it for everyone?

In today's solo episode, I dive into my past polyamorous relationship, what happened, why it ended, and what it taught me. From compersion to polysaturation to polycule dynamics and more, I share key takeaways that could help monogamous folks just as much as those practicing ethical non-monogamy. I also share why I consider myself "monogamish", and how I envision polyamory fitting into my future.

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How do you deal with jealousy in polyamory? What is compersion in polyamory? Is non-monogamy right for you?

I'm SO excited to chat with today's guest, Aiano Nakagawa! As one of my favorite content creators, Aiano and I chat all things polyamory, queer family, dealing with jealousy in relationships, and expanding our idea of community and love through ethical non-monogamy. I've admired her content and creative work for so long, so this episode was such a treat—I hope you all gather as much from it as I did!

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Can you heal an anxious attachment style? What can you do about dating with an anxious attachment style?

In today's solo episode, I share all about my experience learning about my anxious attachment style, how it showed up in my sex and dating life, and how I ultimately healed it and became securely attached! I'm also sharing tons of my breakup lore in the process, so be sure to stick around for the tea LMAO

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How do you find confidence after weight loss? What about sex after losing weight?

Today's episode is SO special to me, and I'm thrilled to introduce someone so near and dear to my heart. With pelvic floor physical therapist and AASECT-certified sex counselor, Dr. Sara Sohn, we covered how to feel comfortable in your body after weight loss (or any major body transformation/change), finding body pleasure, intimacy after weight loss, and finding your "glitter belly" or Wonder Woman moments. You won't want to miss this!!!

Where to find Dr. Sara Sohn:

⁠https://www.drsarasohn.com

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DID YA MISS ME?

JK LOL, thanks for your patience while I took a quick lil burnout break! In today's solo episode (ironically) we're chatting about taking a break from dating, why we make so many excuses to put it off, and how to know if you're actually putting off dating for the "right" reasons.

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Is dating worth it? Let's discuss!

I absolutely loved today's episode. With AASECT-certified Sex Therapist, sexologist, and licensed clinical social worker Dr. Shamyra Howard, we chatted all about dating in 2026, how social media and dating app culture has changed the landscape, and where we see millennial and gen z dating going in the future. Be sure to check out her work below!

Where to find Dr. Shamyra:

https://www.onthegreencouch.com/

https://www.instagram.com/sexologistshamyra

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I am so excited and proud to share all the information packed into this incredible episode. Today we're learning about everything from how to get an abortion in 2026, what availability vs accessibility of reproductive care looks like in the Trump era, and how to support abortion rights in America. I had the honor of speaking with Monica Edwards and Joely Pritzker, the policy and health experts at Power to Decide—an abortion rights organization providing education, advocacy, and resources promoting access to reproductive healthcare for everyone. I hope you all find this episode as powerful, insightful, and impactful as I did!

Important links from the episode:

• Bedsider.org 
• Method Explorer 
• Clinic Finder 
• TikTok Made Me Scared of Birth Control Article 
• AbortionFinder.org 
• Funding & Support Services
• State-by-state Guide 
• Moms.Gov Instagram & TikTok Video
• Crisis Pregnancy Center Instagram Video 
• Reproductive Justice/Other Organizations Mentioned
• SisterSong
• Yellowhammer Fund
• In Our Own Voice: National Black Women’s Reproductive Justice Agenda
• Spark Reproductive Justice NOW
• National Latina Institute for Reproductive Justice
• National Asian Pacific American Women’s Forum
• If When How: Lawyering for Reproductive Justice
• National Immigration Law Center
• ACLU
• Articles:
• Abortion Bans Worsens Violence in Relationships, Study Finds-TIME
• Pregnant Patients in Minnesota Have Postponed Abortion Appointments to Avoid ICE-The 19th

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Welcome to our FIRST EVER video episode! As much as I like to refer to myself as "tech-savvy", I can fully admit that's not true, so it was quite a ride getting to the point of releasing video episodes, lol. But here we are — and what a perfect guest to launch with! Tricia, aka "Safe Slut" on IG, TikTok, YouTube, and Patreon is an incredible writer, content creator, and all-around sex-positive feminist icon. In this episode, we chat all things dating with herpes, living with herpes, and tips for disclosing herpes. Whether you're living with HSV yourself or dating someone who recently got diagnosed, I hope this episode is helpful and informative for anyone wanting to learn more about the condition that nearly 80% of the world has!!!

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I'm so honored to sit down with licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Jaci Witmer today to discuss all things postpartum sex and intimacy! As many of us know, the postpartum journey is a wild new chapter for most, and figuring out how to maintain intimacy after birth, deal with potential pressure from your partner, getting comfortable with your new postpartum body, etc are all big leaps to take—and you don't have to take them alone. I hope you all learn as much from Dr. Jaci's incredible advice as I did!

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