Before Kim Hooper endured pregnancy loss herself she wondered if women experiencing miscarriages might have had a part to play in their loss—maybe they didn’t eat the right things or didn’t manage stress well, maybe it was their fault. As her own losses began accumulating and she understood the randomness of miscarriage, the unpredictability of pregnancy overwhelmed her and fear took over. As her sense of control over her body and her future seemed to spin out she grappled with questions of whether or not she was cut out to be a mother, if she deserved a baby at all. 

Years passed and as she began to understand her grief better and let go of blame, she saw that she wasn’t ready to give up on having a baby and tried again. She is the co-author of the new book All the Love: Healing Your Heart and Finding Meaning After Pregnancy Loss and joins And Then Everything Changed on the eve of her book release to share her story, discuss the harmful clinical language around pregnancy loss, and how to best support grieving parents.