- Decide that you are no longer willing to be at war with yourself.
Awareness. Becoming aware of your negative self-talk Let Go of How Your Life “Looks” and Dedicate Yourself to Focusing on How Your Life “Feels.” Stop Comparing Yourself to Others. Speak to yourself as you would a close friend. Focus on your strengths. Instead of focusing on what you don’t like about yourself, focus on the things that you do like about you. FBe intentional with how you spend your time. Be consistent. It’s so easy to slip back into your old, familiar patterns.