In this episode, I'm going to talk about what narcissistic injury is and how it's way more intense than you think. I'll discuss emotional boundaries and how to set them, and I'll also discuss how to deal with narcissistic injury.  Narcissistic injury is an intense form of psychological abuse that can leave lasting damage. If you're affected by narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you. I'll discuss the signs and symptoms of narcissistic injury, as well as how to set boundaries and protect yourself from this type of abuse.

I know I need change but I can't

I want to, but I can't

It makes my heart race,

I want to do it, but can't do it

I really know that I need a change

But I don't know how and where to start

𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐬 𝐬𝐚𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫?

𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚 𝐒𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐍𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐒𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐥𝐲?

𝐘𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐚 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐧𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐥𝐲 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐚 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐚𝐝𝐦𝐢𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐟𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐧𝐞𝐠𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐟𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐞𝐥𝐬𝐞.

I've recently been thinking a lot about narcissistic supply-- that is, the things or behaviors that narcissists seek out because they make them feel good about themselves.   

Narcissistic supply isn't just the people they have tethered to themselves with damaging behaviors, like gas lighting and abuse.   

What if the things that a person needs in order to avoid feeling terrible about themselves (like drugs, high-risk sexual behavior, or even just excessive partying) are harmful to their life? I would say that's narcissistic supply.  

 I would also say it's highly likely that all of us have experienced some form of connection with someone for whom certain behaviors or relationships (or maybe even certain people) were "supply" - meaning, they made the person feel more important or powerful. And many of us who have had this happen to us can attest - it's not pleasant. 

It feels awful, and we don't want more of it.   But how do we break the connection? How do we get rid of it?   

Most of the time that we aren't aware that it's happening-- and if we are aware, we aren't sure what to do about it.   

So in this episode I talk about what narcissistic supply is and why we should be aware of

"𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔 𝑰 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏𝒆𝒅 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒏𝒂𝒓𝒄𝒊𝒔𝒊𝒔𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒄 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒋𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏"

Ever found yourself in disbelief at what was just said about you

and you said to yourself,

❞𝑾𝒂𝒊𝒕 𝒂 𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒖𝒕𝒆 𝑻𝒉𝒂𝒕❜𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒎𝒆, 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖❞

You just might be on the receiving end of someone's projection.

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈 𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐅𝐥𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐨𝐧𝐤𝐞𝐲𝐬

𝐈𝐟 𝐟𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐬 𝐨𝐫 𝐟𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐫'𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐦𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐛𝐞 𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐟𝐥𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐤𝐞𝐲𝐬

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐠𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐟𝐥𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐤𝐞𝐲𝐬

Flying monkeys frequently act under the impression that they are acting in both parties' best interests and think it is worthwhile to save the narcissist's toxic relationships.

People who frequently perform the narcissists' dirty work for them aren't aware of how easily they can be manipulated around them.

#liftinglimitinglids #narcissism #narcissisticabuseawareness #coachwendyhazel

Things you didn't know about shame and being shame-based.

SHAME IS A POWERFUL EMOTION.

It can make you feel like nothing, like you're worthless, like you don't deserve anything good.

BUT GUESS WHAT? YOU'RE WRONG. SHAME IS A DESTRUCTIVE EMOTION, AND IT'S ONE THAT WE SHOULD ALL WORK TO GET RID OF.

We've all been there—feeling ashamed of something we did or said (or didn't do or say) because we felt like it made us look bad or not worthy of acceptance by others.

But here's the thing—shame-based thinking isn't just a problem for you; it's also a problem for your friends, family members, coworkers… anyone who has ever had to deal with any kind of shame in their lives.

Shame makes us want to hide our mistakes and shortcomings instead of learning from them and moving forward in life with more confidence than ever before.

And that's exactly why I'm talking about it today: so that we can all start to move away from shame-based behaviors towards more empowering ones!

#shame #shamebased #shamebasedbehavior #shamebasedthinking #shamecoverup #shamecoverups #shamefulbehavior #shamefulthinking #shamefulcoverup #shamebehavior #shamethinking #shamecoverups #shamefulbehavior #shame

In this video, we're going to talk about what we don't know about narcissism. 

Narcissism is a personality disorder that can cause a lot of problems in people's lives.  

We don't know enough about narcissism yet, and that's why it's important to raise awareness about it. 

We need to learn more about this disorder so that we can help people who have it and so that we can prevent it from happening to other people.  

So in this video, we're going to talk about what we don't know about narcissism, and hopefully we can start to fill in some of the gaps in our knowledge.

 Let's learn more about this disorder and help raise awareness about it so that we can help save lives.  

Listen to the voice of the young lady who lost her life.. https://fb.watch/feFOw2rp6R/

More about Coach Wendy Hazel -- Linktr.ee/CoachWendyHazel

𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞?

Emotional safety is having a sense of trust in yourself and those around you.

𝐈𝐭'𝐬 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐝𝐯𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭.

It's also knowing that if something bad happens, the people around you will help.

They won't leave you to deal with it alone—and they won't blame you for what went wrong!

𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐬 𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲, 𝐢𝐭'𝐬 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐧𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐩𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐮𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐰𝐚𝐲, 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐞 𝐨𝐤𝐚𝐲 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐞𝐧𝐝.

If this sounds like something that resonates with you, then listen to this conversation on feeling emotionally safe.

Fawning and people pleasing are two terms that seem to be used interchangeably, but are actually very different. 

Fawning is a type of behavior that occurs when people have been traumatized and their behavior is the result of an attempt to appease the source of their trauma. 

People pleasing is a behavior that occurs when someone wants to please others or themselves.

In this conversation, we'll look at what fawning and people pleasing are, why they occur, and how trauma can cause these behaviors. 

We'll also look at some ways you can heal from your trauma reactions so you can stop fawning and people pleasing.