The NEW YORK TIMES says there are lies, damned lies and lies you tell your spouse. I'm not talking about big, deal-breaking lies. Rather, I'm talking about the little white lies that help relationships run smoothly. After all, is there a man dumb enough to tell his wife she looks fat? For women, they fib about the cost of their hair highlights or botox. A favorite trick, the new clothes out of a shopping bag in the cleaner's plastic bag. Men do fudge: how much they drink; how fast they drive. Guys said they always tell their wives they look beautiful. Over one bad hair day, I don't want to make her mad. Most spouses know that they've manipulated the truth. They don't ever consider it lying. For me, my standard lie: "Oh, you're so smart!"