Have you ever found yourself wrestling with things that you feel like you should do or ways you think you should act or look? We all have battled the “shoulds” of life in some way, shape or form. Often, this struggle is daily or perhaps constant. We are all unconsciously given sets of expectations for work, sports, community, faith, school, and every other area of our lives. We are told how to fit into the groups we are a part of and how to be successful. Families have their own "shoulds," and they differ widely from family to family. For some, it’s a way you are expected to dress and behave, the sports you should play, or where you’re expected to live. For other families, it’s academic and career achievement, social status, and lifestyle. Most of us don’t even recognize the "shoulds" anymore because they are baked into us by every group we are part of. There is a big problem with the "shoulds" that needs to be talked about; most of them are not real.