A conversation with Dalia Kemble on choosing authenticity over approval

There’s a moment many women encounter, often quietly and without fanfare — the moment when doing everything “right” still doesn’t feel right.

In this episode of The Reinvention By Design Podcast, I spoke with Dalia Kemble, a life and mindset coach with a background in Psychology and Organizational Behaviour & Development. On paper, she had followed the expected path: academic achievements, the right credentials, a life that made perfect sense from the outside.

But after completing her master’s degree, she found herself asking a question that many high-achieving women keep buried:

If I’ve done everything I was supposed to… why don’t I feel at home in my own life?

That question led her on a solo trip that became something more than travel. It became a rupture in the script she had been living. She began to wonder what success truly meant to her, and why she had been living by rules she didn’t consciously choose.

Living by Expectations vs. Living by Design

Dalia shared that one of her deepest struggles wasn’t failure — it was success that didn’t feel like her.

She knew what it was like to:

* Be the “good one,” the reliable one, the one who follows the script

* Seek approval through perfection

* Silence her own desires in order to meet expectations

* Feel misunderstood, even when everyone around her believed she was doing great

Her words echoed something I’ve seen over and over again: it’s entirely possible to look like you belong while feeling deeply disconnected inside.

That’s the tension so many women live in, especially those who have learned to people-please, to overachieve, to blend in even when their soul wants to stand out.

Walking Away from the Script

What I appreciated about Dalia’s approach is that she doesn’t frame reinvention as a dramatic act of rebellion, but as a gradual reclamation. A quiet choosing of self over expectation.

She now works 1:1 with women who, like her, have checked all the boxes but still feel like the black sheep in the story of their own lives. Women who are tired of defending their choices, tired of explaining themselves, and tired of living lives that make sense to everyone but them.

Looking forward, Dalia envisions The Pink Sheep Society: a community space for women who have always felt different but are finally ready to see that as a gift, not a flaw. A space for the women who were never meant to blend in.

The Courage to Choose Yourself

This episode isn’t about running away from responsibility. It’s about recognizing the moment when responsibility to others has overshadowed responsibility to yourself.

Listening to Dalia talk about the tension between being who you’re expected to be and being who you actually are, I was reminded of something important:

Belonging doesn’t come from fitting the mold.Belonging comes from finally deciding to stop shrinking to fit it.

🎙 The full conversation with Dalia Kemble is available now on The Reinvention By Design Podcast.

Connect with Dalia Kemble

To follow Dalia’s work or explore her upcoming community space for women who are done apologizing for who they are, you can find her here:

* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daliakemble/

* Resource – The Black Sheep’s Guide to Breaking the Rules & Living Without Regret: https://citytohippie.kit.com/596406f9a2

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