In this episode of Just Like Nana, host Amie (Elizabeth) Penny Sayler is joined by stress management coach Lolita Guarin, where they discuss struggling with anxiety and self abandonment as an unintentional way to honor your ancestors and how to break your ‘loyalty’ to your family’s trauma patterns.

They also discuss the societal pressure to uphold perfectly happily family narratives, even when that is not the reality for many people.

About Lolita Guarin

Lolita Guarin is a stress management expert, speaker, coach, six-time Amazon #1 bestselling author, creator of the CALM Process, and Story to IMPACT mentor. She helps audiences move from stress and burnout into clarity, confidence, and self-trust with practical tools they can use right away. 

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Understand that ancestral trauma is an inherited historical memory that converts into rigid behavioral patterns. Recognizing that your constant state of hyper-vigilance is an inherited default setting allows you to separate the trauma from who you truly are.
• By looking through a third-person lens rather than a wounded child's perspective, you can see how an ancestor’s inability to show love often stems from unresolved trauma in their own childhood.
• Many adults self-abandon and refuse to practice self-care because they unconsciously believe that suffering honors the sacrifices of their lineage. 
• Stop bulldozing your own needs. Reclaim your personal sovereignty by practicing small boundaries, like pausing before saying "yes" to a demand, and actively celebrating your small daily victories to heal your inner child.

Resources Mentioned

Dr. Gabor Maté: https://drgabormate.com/

Connect with Lolita

Lolita’s Website: https://www.beamazingyou.com/

Lolita’s Books: https://beamazingyou.lpages.co/get-the-books/

Book a Session: https://beamazingyou.lpages.co/book-a-session/

Connect with the Show

• Website: justlikenana.com
• Share Your Story: If you have a family story or trauma you’re exploring, reach out via our website for a chance to be interviewed.

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Theme music by Carter Penny.