Wouldn’t you love it if all the problems at home would disappear overnight? Sure you would. But unfortunately, quick fixes rarely work.

If you want to see deeper relationships, more respect, or a household with a measure of peace, then you’ll need to devise a plan.

First, identify the things that need to change. Keep this list to the big stuff. Where do you want to see your family in five years?

Second, prepare your family for change. Hold a family meeting to map out the rules and boundaries that’ll take everyone to a better place.

And finally, do it! Make the changes you need to.

Things won’t change for the better without some blood, sweat and tears. Start now, and five years down the road you’ll be happy you did!

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