The other thing we get from our families of origin is our relational patterns. Our primary caregivers gave us our templates for relationships and attachments early on in our lives. Though they may have loved us deeply, they were equally broken and so they hurt us alongside that. That gave us a warped view of love and formed our relationship patterns. Discipleship calls us to investigate our relationship patterns and find out where they are not in sync with the way of Jesus and seek healing and growth.