Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating

Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating episodes:

• 02.07.2024

  The End of an Era

  Wow. We can’t really believe that we’re here. In some ways, it seems like the past 6 years have absolutely flown by. In other ways, it seems like we’re limping across this finish line after all of the turmoil and...

  
• 01.31.2024

  It’s the Final CouchCast…

  If you sang that title in your head like I did… you are my people! haha  This is the second to final episode and we are feeling nostalgic so this is a bit of a full-circle moment. We are taking it...

  
• 01.24.2024

  What to Do With an Extended Season of (Unwanted) Singleness

  Do you find yourself in a period of being single for longer than you had hoped or planned? Even if this isn’t you right now, there’s a good chance it has been you at some point, and today we’re diving...

  
• 01.17.2024

  Make the Most of Your Online Dating Profile

  January and February are the months with the highest traffic on online dating apps for the whole year! Don’t miss out on those quality matches and messages… we’re here to help you get your profile in tip top shape.

  
• 12.13.2023

  Why is the Church Obsessed with Everyone Getting Married?

  You guys… this week’s episode is a mess! I am just warning you! We sat down to record and before we knew it, the building was overrun with people and then suddenly there were people all over the outside and...

  
• 12.06.2023

  Practical Tips for Not “Wasting Your Life” in a Season of Singleness

  Last season we touched on this idea from a more philosophical point of view… today, we’re getting into more of what this idea looks like practically.

  
• 11.29.2023

  We’ve Got Some Explaining To Do!

  We’re back from our little, unexpected, unannounced, poorly executed mini-mid-season-sabbatical! Sorry about that guys… there has been A LOT going on. We get into all of that today and we will be back to our regularly scheduled programming as usual...

  
• 11.01.2023

  LFTM Revisited: How to Simplify Dating

  We mentioned last week that we have been running on fumes the past couple of weeks… a lot going on personally, with work, and just all around. We hoped we’d be back on track this week, but we’re not quite...

  
• 10.25.2023

  3 Questions. 3 Answers!

  We’re tackling some of your questions today!!

  
• 10.18.2023

  Are My Feelings True?

  Do you ever wonder if you’re wanting to actually date THIS person or if you’re just wanting ANY person to fill a void that you feel in your life? Today, we’re going to tackle this question and talk through several...

  
• 10.13.2023

  Let’s Catch Up On Life!

  Hello, long lost friends! Goodness, this off-season seemed especially long! We have missed you guys and have so much to talk about… so, jump in with this week’s episode and let’s have a fun season!

  
• 05.17.2023

  Rapid Fire…Your Questions Answered!

  Today is the Season 10 Finale! And, we’re getting through as many of your questions as possible. All bets are off. There are no filters. Here we go!

  
• 05.10.2023

  Dating in Church… the Good, the Bad, and the Weird

  This is definitely one of those episodes where the point is that we all know we’re not alone! Dating in church can be just plain weird sometimes. There are so many pitfalls and awkward situations that are uniquely Christian. Today,...

  
• 05.03.2023

  Biblical Manhood and Womanhood… Through the Lens of Proverbs

  This episode has been in the works for a few seasons now! We wanted to give it the preparation and thought it deserved… so, now, we’re jumping in and tackling this topic with the book of Proverbs as our jumping...

  
• 04.26.2023

  The Art of the Set-Up

  Whether you’re the one being set up, or the one doing the setting up… we’ve been on both sides of this delicate topic and we’re talking about the whole process from start to finish from both sides!

  
• 04.19.2023

  Letters to My Younger Self on Dating

  Do you ever look back and wish you had been able to tell the younger version of yourself that everything would be ok? Or, maybe you want to tell yourself to snap out of it and get your act together?...

  
• 04.12.2023

  LFTM Revisited: Early Date Expectations

  Dalton has been a bit under the weather and we haven’t been able to record this week. We’ll be back next week with our next new episode, but until then, here’s one of your favorites for you to listen to...

  
• 04.05.2023

  How to Simplify Dating

  We talk (and complain) a lot about how dating is a complicated and convoluted process and that you don’t want to complicate it more. But, we don’t really talk all that much about how to actually simplify the process. So,...

  
• 03.29.2023

  If I Just Had ______________, My Life Would Be Better

  Do you ever feel like there’s something missing in your life and if you could just have that one thing, then your life would be better? Complete, even? It’s so easy to push aside the satisfaction and contentment we should...

  
• 03.22.2023

  To Pray or Not to Pray

  That is the question... Today we’re looking at lots of different scenarios along a dating timeline and discussing whether or not it’s a good idea to pray with your significant other and for your significant other in those scenarios. This is...

  
• 03.15.2023

  Why Is Clarity a Four-Letter Word in Dating?

  Why is it that everyone wants clarity in dating and at the same time everyone also feels like clarity is greatly lacking in dating? If everyone wants clarity, and yet no-one’s getting clarity, we have a problem on our hands,...

  
• 03.10.2023

  CouchCast: Denominations… How Different Is Too Different?

  Denominations can cause a lot of confusion when it comes to dating sometimes! There’s a lot of overlap, but there’s a lot of differences too and discerning which are ok and which aren’t can be tricky. We’re walking through our...

  
• 03.08.2023

  Why Missionary Dating is So Dangerous

  We’re digging into the topic of missionary dating today and it’s a great discussion of what to be on the lookout for if you’re concerned that maybe this is the situation you’re in, what it means to be equally yoked,...

  
• 03.01.2023

  Don’t Waste Your Dating

  This week’s episode is the conclusion to the conversation we started last week with Don’t Waste Your Singleness. We’re moving into the realm of dating this week and what it looks like to not waste the time you have as...

  
• 02.24.2023

  CouchCast: A Live Swiping Extravaganza

  You guys loved it the last time we had some live swiping through dating apps on an episode, so we made an entire CouchCast out of it. There is no filter and all bets are off as to what we’re...

  
• 02.22.2023

  Don’t Waste Your Singleness!

  We’re back!!! Season 10 is here and we’re so excited! We’re kicking off the season taking a look at the idea of making the most of the time you’ve been given as a single person. Instead of seeing it as...

  
• 12.14.2022

  What Do I Do If ______________ ??

  It's the season finale of season 9!! And, it's our question episode for this season all rolled into one. This week, we're answering the question"what do I do if/when _________?" You guys supplied the answers and now we're talking about...

  
• 12.07.2022

  How Do I Know I’m ”Ready” for Marriage?

  Have you ever wondered if you met "the one" tomorrow would you be ready to pursue marriage? We've probably all asked ourselves that at some point, but it's not always clear what the answer is. So, this week, we're going...

  
• 11.30.2022

  Men (and women) Tell All! An Interview with Ben & Lindsay

  This season's Men Tell All episode is a bit different! We're interviewing Ben and his wife Lindsay this week to get some insight into what dating as a Christian couple really looks like. What were the most important and helpful...

  
• 11.23.2022

  Why Dating is not a Biblical Construct... and What to Do About It

  We've all heard it a million times... dating isn't actually in the Bible. We get it, it's not. But, what do you do instead? While the actual dating process isn't in the Bible anywhere, there is plenty within the pages...

  
• 11.16.2022

  When to Just Shut Up

  You like him... he likes you... seems like a dream scenario, right? Should you always go for it, if that's the case? Are there ever times when you still shouldn't say anything? In this week's episode, we're looking at those...

  
• 11.11.2022

  CouchCast: Real Talk (the follow up)

  We're circling back to the online dating app discussion we started in Wednesday's episode... things we see a lot that are frustrating, some that maybe we're being too picky about, and some that are just downright weird. You don't want...

  
• 11.09.2022

  Real Talk

  Y'all, we're calling an audible this week! This is not what we originally had on the schedule... we just recorded it this week even. But, this was probably one of the most vulnerable and unguarded conversations we've ever had on...

  
• 11.02.2022

  Things to Talk About Before You Get Engaged

  Whether you're about to engaged, newly dating someone, or not dating anyone at all, this episode is for you! Knowing when to talk about what can be tricky when you're navigating a dating relationship and especially as you get more...

  
• 10.28.2022

  Backstage Pass: Should the Person You’re Dating ”Make You Happy”?

  This Backstage Pass actually stems from a conversation we were having off the air that we thought would be helpful and encouraging to you guys too? Should the person you're dating be the source of your happiness? This was definitely...

  
• 10.26.2022

  Dalton’s Perspective on Our Most Popular Questions

  There are several questions that we have gotten way more than any others and we've talked about them in previous episodes or CouchCasts, but this week, we're throwing all of them at Dalton to get a guy's perspective on some...

  
• 10.19.2022

  The Circle Back

  This episode comes straight from a conversation we had with one of our friends a couple of months back, talking about circling back to a previous relationship after an amicable break-up. When is it a good idea? Who should do...

  
• 10.14.2022

  CouchCast: How Do I Seek Validation from God Rather than the Guy I’m Dating?

  This is a common struggle for all of us! We seek to get our validation, worth, and joy from the people around us rather than from God, Himself. So, in a dating context if you're looking to get that from...

  
• 10.12.2022

  Why is Christian Dating so Complicated?

  We all know, firsthand, that dating as a Christian is really complicated these days! Why is that though?? We're doing a deep dive in this week's episode to figure out some reasons why and what we can do to fix...

  
• 10.05.2022

  Women Tell All! w/Mel New & IYKYK Christian Dating

  This is our first ever Women Tell All episode and we couldn't be happier to have Mel on the show! She founded IYKYK Christian Dating almost two years ago and has created a vibrant community for Christian singles online and...

  
• 09.30.2022

  Backstage Pass: Is it Ok to Ask a Girl Out More Than Once?

  In this week's Backstage Pass, one of our guy listeners wants to know how it would be taken if he asked a girl out again who has previously said no... more details of the situation in the episode, but we...

  
• 09.28.2022

  What to Look for When You’re Looking: A Discussion of Knights in Shining Armor and Supermodels

  Whew! That title was a mouthful! This week's episode stemmed from a conversation we had about how what we all tend to look for in someone to date is really what makes dating itself so difficult! If we had a...

  
• 09.21.2022

  Early Date Expectations

  Oh, those early, awkward, unsure dates.... they're the worst, right? Please tell me I'm not the only one?! One thing that has made all the difference for me is know what to expect going into them. What to expect of...

  
• 09.16.2022

  CouchCast: How Can I Be More Approachable?

  1st CouchCast of the season! ....and Dalton's 1st CouchCast ever! We went back to the old days and I didn't tell him the question before we answered it. So, take a listen and find out how to be more approachable...

  
• 09.14.2022

  The One With the Big Announcement

  I have been counting down the days until you guys could hear this for a LONG time now! I can't wait for you to finally know what we've been keeping under wraps. We're all so excited and would love to...

  
• 06.27.2022

  Exciting Summer Announcement!

  Hey Guys! Just a quick drop-in to make you all aware of an exciting and fun opportunity for the end of this summer! Hope to see a bunch of you there!

  
• 05.25.2022

  Are We Too Distracted With ”Looking”?

  We've been looking for the middle for a while around here... but, one thing we've kind of realized is that maybe we're all too distracted with the "looking" and not focused enough on being found. Let's discuss!

  
• 05.20.2022

  CouchCast Revisited: The Dreaded DTR

  Today, we're taking it wayyy back to a CouchCast that was between season 1 and season 2. The Dreaded DTR. This one isn't so much that our thoughts have changed completely, but it's more of an evolution of thought as...

  
• 05.18.2022

  When Being Single in the Church Feels Lonely

  Does it sometimes feel like you're the first and only person to ever be single in the church? Everywhere you turn, there are married, or nearly married people? In today's episode, we're discussing reasons why that may be, but even...

  
• 05.11.2022

  LFTM Unfiltered

  This week is our "question episode" and this season's question was "What do you want to hear our unfiltered, unscripted responses about?". We took your questions/topics from Facebook and Instagram and you're getting our thoughts on those sans filter. Topics...