How to deal with making mistakes in big situations- and how things aren't always as bad as we think they are.Transcript: Hey, how's it going? Welcome to another episode of Drummer Daily. I'm Daniel. Thanks for listening. Today I want to tell you a story and then relate it back to something to do with drumming. Yesterday I have an office that's downstairs in our house near the front door. My wife works from home. So do I. We have a son. He was outside playing with some friends, and you hear screaming and crying all throughout the time that he's outside playing. He's got some friends on our street that he plays with all the time outside.Anytime, yesterday I'm working and I hear just wailing, just crying, like the end of the world just happened. Once you get to know your kids, you get to know their cries and what things mean. I knew he hadn't hurt himself. I thought maybe the kid had been really mean to him or something. There was something that was just destroying him. I go out there to find out ... I don't always go out when he's crying to try to not make a big deal about it and hopefully he'll learn not to always cry about everything and only cry when it's a big deal, which is something we're working on. Anyway, go outside and I'm like, "What is going on? What is happening?" He told me that Hans Solo was lost in the bushes.TO back up a little bit, my brother and I, we both played with Star Wars toys when we were kids, and my brother ended up with most of the old toys. Most of those toys he ended up having them stored away with him in Seattle. For his birthday, my son really wanted some Star Wars toys because he had seen the new movie and loved it. We got him a few of the new ones, but he really wanted a lot, and so I was like, "It would be so cool to pass down some of my toys to my son because they're exactly the same as the new ones, so why not?" Long story short, my brother shipped some to me, and it includes one of the Hans Solo figures from the '80s.Anyway, my son and his friend were outside, and my son had lost Hans Solo in the bushes out in front of our house. It's funny because that's what caused him to be so upset, was that he had lost Hans Solo. The resolution to that story is that I went out and found Hans Solo pretty quickly. It was around top of the bushes. He hadn't fallen into the bush. He had actually been caught by the other top layer of the bush, and that's where he was.Anyways, flash back 2 to 3 weeks ago, and he has this really nice awesome scooter that he rides around on, and the back wheel has one of those roller blade wheels with the break on it, and the break had broken on, and so he can't really stop anymore, so he can't ride his scooter until we get him a new one. He actually much less upset about that than he was about Hans Solo being temporarily missing. All that to say the things that we choose to make a big deal, and I'm talking about when we make mistakes playing drums, a lot of things that we choose to make a big deal about to ourselves the outside world doesn't think of those things as being as big of a deal.Basically what I'm trying to get at here is if you make a mistake in drumming, and the reason why it even matters what other people think is that drumming is a performance based thing. Part of the reason why most people play drums is that so other people can hear you play. You're trying to give something to those other people. Their perception of what you're doing actually can be important. When we make mistakes, the things we choose to make a big deal about don't actually always matter that much to everyone else.

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