Love After Lies

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In this episode of "Love After Lies," Avonlea and Josh share their transformative journey from betrayal to forgiveness. They recount their experiences at a healing retreat in Costa Rica, where they explored the power of plant medicine and its impact on their relationship. Join them as they discuss the challenges of healing, the importance of setting and intention, and the profound insights gained through their journey. Whether you're navigating your own path to healing or simply curious about alternative therapies, this episode offers a candid and heartfelt exploration of love, forgiveness, and personal growth.

Resources:

Inside Out Health Podcast: JOSH TRENT Breathwork, Ayahuasca, and Following Your Heart

Collective Insights Podcast: Plant Medicine - Dr. Jeff McNairy - Psychedelics

Huberman Lab Podcast: The Science of Psychedelics for Mental Health

Huberman Lab Podcast: Psychedelics & Neurostimulation for Brain Rewiring

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When a viral Coldplay concert “Kiss Cam” exposed two married executives in a shocking affair, the world turned it into a meme—but for the betrayed spouses and families, it was anything but funny.

In this episode, we pause our personal story to unpack why infidelity is so devastating—through the lens of science, faith, and lived experience. You’ll discover:

• The different types of affairs (emotional affair, one-night stand, sexual addiction, micro-cheating, and more)
• Why betrayal trauma shatters us at the deepest level of attachment and trust
• Insights from The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays on the science of bonding, attachment, and heartbreak
• The cultural tendency to treat infidelity casually, and the real emotional and spiritual cost for those involved

Whether you’re healing from infidelity, supporting someone after betrayal, or simply want to understand why cheating hurts so much, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and hope.

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In this deeply personal episode, the hosts share their journey from betrayal to healing, highlighting the powerful role of truth and vulnerability in rebuilding intimacy. They reflect on the aftermath of Full Therapeutic Disclosure, the emotional reconnection that followed, and the hard but hopeful road of reintegration after separation. The episode confronts common excuses for secrecy—like “I don’t want to hurt them”—and exposes how withholding truth only deepens the damage. With honesty, faith, and intentional recovery work, they show that real connection is only possible when there’s nothing left to hide.

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In this deeply personal solo episode, Avonlea shares the raw and unfiltered story of what happened after Full Therapeutic Disclosure—including the moments of panic, regret, and resistance that followed. From symbolic decisions like removing her wedding ring to the anxiety of traveling post-disclosure, she opens up about the emotional toll of navigating betrayal, addiction recovery, and marriage restoration.

She reflects on journal entries written in the depths of despair—honest words many in similar pain will recognize—and explains how Scripture, travel, and intentional distance played a role in her healing. Avonlea also teases what’s ahead: her return to Oregon, living together again after four months apart, and the launch of her upcoming coaching program.

This episode is a lifeline for anyone wondering if they can survive the darkness and ever feel whole again.

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In this raw and informative episode, we take you inside one of the most pivotal (and most controversial) moments in our healing journey after infidelity: Full Therapeutic Disclosure (FTD) and the use of a polygraph.

We talk about why we chose to go through this difficult, costly, and emotionally intense process, despite skepticism from well-meaning friends and family. You'll hear:

• What Full Therapeutic Disclosure really is (and isn’t)
• Why a polygraph can be a powerful tool for rebuilding trust
• How we prepared for our 3-day intensive with Comfort Christian Counseling
• The role humility, honesty, and faith played in our process
• What Scripture says about truth and why it matters in recovery
  
  

If you're navigating betrayal trauma, sexual addiction recovery, or just beginning to seek truth in your relationship, this episode offers hope, practical insight, and spiritual grounding. Truth-telling is painful—but it’s also holy. And with the right support, it can be the beginning of freedom.

📝 Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Comfort Christian Counseling
  
  
• Stephen Cabler, Polygraph Examiner
  
  

🙏 We pray for our listeners daily. You are not alone.

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In this vulnerable episode, we pick up our story in September 2023—a month marked by emotional extremes, deep spiritual wrestling, and pivotal moments in our healing journey after betrayal trauma.

Avonlea opens up about her darkest night—grappling with suicidal thoughts and the heavy weight of relational trauma. Josh shares what early recovery and international travel were like while battling sex addiction and learning to build real emotional connection for the first time.

Together, we discuss:

• Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong
• Struggles with communication and the FASTT check-in tool (from Stop Sex Addiction)
• The emotional toll of sexual betrayal and fears around sexual reintegration
• How God’s truth and professional support pulled us through
• Powerful insights from books like The Betrayal Bind, The Great Sex Rescue, and Calling in the One

This episode is for anyone navigating the depths of trauma recovery, addiction healing, or the lonely places where faith, love, and despair collide. Our prayer is that you feel seen and supported—and know that you are never walking this road alone.

 🙏 We pray for you daily—your healing matters.

📖 Resources: 

SAMHSA National Helpline: Call 1-800-662-HELP (4357) for confidential treatment referral and information about mental and/or substance use disorders. This line is available 24/7 in English and Spanish.

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988 for free and confidential support for people in suicidal or emotional distress. This hotline is available 24/7.

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In this episode, we invite you into a raw, God-centered conversation about what it means to cast a vision for a new kind of love. You’ll hear Avonlea’s personal journal entries from “Calling in the One,” and the cautious moments of reuniting in person after weeks apart. Whether you're healing your marriage or your own heart, we pray this episode brings clarity, hope, and encouragement.

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In this episode, we return to the raw and painful moments of August 2023—the second month in our healing journey. We talk about the impossible odds of saving our marriage after betrayal, the emotional weight of therapeutic separation, and the heart-wrenching process of rebuilding from ground zero. From moments of profound spiritual insight—like a lakeside baptism and the realization of hidden idols—to crushing lows marked by loneliness, fear, and exhaustion, this episode pulls back the curtain on the intense work of healing. We also reflect on what true intimacy means, the trauma of broken trust, and the quiet, relentless hope that somehow, even this can be redeemed.

If you’ve made it this far with us, we’d love to hear what’s been most helpful to you. Message us on Instagram or Facebook @loveafterliespodcast, or text us anonymously—we’re honored to walk this road with you.

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In a spiritual context, a "sacred wound" refers to a deep, transformative trauma or suffering that, instead of being a source of negativity, becomes a catalyst for growth, healing, and a deeper connection with the divine or oneself.

When God creates Eve, He calls her an “ezer kenegdo.” That’s the word used in the original Hebrew in Genesis 2:18. Turns out, this phrase is notoriously difficult to translate into English. 

Josh and Avonlea discuss how these two important topics influenced their healing journey. 

Calling in "The One" Revised and Expanded: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life

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Josh and Avonlea dive deeper into their journey of recovery and healing and share some of the resources that helped them navigate through the process.

Affair Recovery "The Shocking Truth About Trust" 

Affair Recovery First Steps Bootcamp

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Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal