I see many couples in my office....some have been married for 50 years and some for 5 weeks. I know usually in 30 seconds whether they have a good vibe. In almost every case, the couples who have raised kids, saved money and shared together, and come to see me, have a good vibe. Usually, it is in the form of a wonderful relationship that is grounded in mutual respect and friendship, and even love....lol.