The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast | Matrescence | Relationship after baby | Motherhood life

Love Language Not Working Anymore? How Parenthood, Stress, and Identity Shifts Change Emotional Needs in Marriage and Long-Term Relationships | Ep. 52

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Have you ever thought, “Why doesn’t love feel the same anymore?”

Maybe you used to love hugs, long talks, or sweet texts… but now, you just want someone to do the dishes or give you five minutes alone.

If this sounds familiar, you're not alone.

In today’s episode, we talk about something a lot of people wonder but don’t always say out loud:

"Why doesn’t my love language work anymore after having kids?"

If you've been searching things like:

  • “My love language changed after baby”
  • “I don’t like hugs anymore after becoming a mom”
  • “Why am I annoyed when my partner says I love you?”
  • “Love languages in marriage after kids”
    • …you are in the right place.

    When we become parents, everything changes.

    Our energy, our emotions, our body, our brain — all of it.
    And that means the way we feel love changes too.

    In this episode, I explain:

    • What love languages are (in simple words)
    • Why they often stop working after you have kids
    • How parenthood rewires your brain and body
    • What to do when you feel disconnected from your partner
    • How to figure out what you need now, not what used to work before

      • Whether you’re feeling emotionally distant in your relationship, wondering if something is wrong, or just confused about why your partner’s kind gestures don’t hit like they used to, this episode will help you understand what’s really going on.

      And no, you’re not cold or ungrateful. You’re simply adjusting to a new season. Your needs have changed — and that’s okay.

      We’ll also talk about matrescence and patrescence — two big words that describe how our identity changes when we become parents. These changes touch everything, including the way we love and connect.

      At the end, I’ll walk you through 4 simple steps to figure out what kind of love and support you need now. It’s not about fixing yourself — it’s about getting curious and starting a fresh, honest conversation with yourself… and your partner.

      🎁 Want extra support?

      Download my free journaling prompt to discover your current love language at markellakaplani.com/newsletter

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      Markella Kaplani, M.A.

      Clinical-Counseling Psychologist
      Parenthood & Relationship Coach
      www.markellakaplani.com

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      The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast | Matrescence | Relationship after baby | Motherhood lifeBy Markella Kaplani - Clinical-Counseling Psychologist | Parenthood & Relationship Coach | Matrescence Expert