In this episode, I explore:

• 💗 How dating used to be more natural and organic—especially in cultures with love marriages vs. arranged ones
• 📱 The role of dating apps and how they mimic being set up by a mutual friend (but with way more pressure)
• 🎯 The modern pressure on first dates to feel like job interviews instead of a relaxed connection
• 🧠 How we stay in our heads trying to assess someone instead of dropping into our bodies and hearts
• 🚫 10 unrealistic expectations we often carry in early dating—and why they aren’t rooted in reality
• 🌸 How to date with more feminine energy, presence, and emotional self-responsibility

Perfect for you if:
You're navigating the early stages of dating, want to release pressure and anxiety, and attract love from a grounded, empowered place.

In this episode, I explore:

• 🌬️ The difference between focusing on the problem vs. vibrating with the energy of the solution
• 💫 Why holding onto anger, resentment, or blame keeps us stuck—and how to shift into clarity and self-alignment
• 🤍 The core needs of the masculine and feminine in relationship:
  • The masculine needs to feel respected and trusted
  • The feminine needs to feel adored and emotionally validated
• 🔁 How unmet needs can create a painful cycle of disconnect, withholding, and frustration
• 🧭 Tools for navigating relationship challenges with consciousness and compassion
• 🌹 The power of vulnerability and how it opens the door to deeper intimacy and true connection

Perfect for you if:
You're ready to move beyond blame and into healing, deepen your understanding of masculine/feminine dynamics, and learn to stay soft and open—even in conflict.

There is great power in submission, when there is trust and masculine provision and protection.

There is exploitation of the feminine because there is a very fine line between abuse and violence, which is the greatest source of feminine pain, and empowered, respectful dominance, which is the greatest source of feminine pleasure.

Welcome to SEASON 2! We're going deeper, more tantric, spiritual and energetic in our relationships. 

In this episode, we'll look into what it takes to have a deeper spiritual relationship with someone; a relationship that isn't just short-term, surface level and convenient until it's not.

I call this the Divine Union. In order to create a soulful partnership with another person, you need to understand the divine principles of masculine and feminine energies that govern everything in the Universe.

Then, you need to have a "Divine Union" relationship within yourself and with God/Goddess/Universe/Source. 

With these pre-requisites, you'll be able to attract and grow with a divine counterpart that is a richer experience than you've ever had.

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We sabotage the desires we have: 

My story of sabotage. 

Current identity vs the desired identity. (Safety & comfort but being unsatisfied, vs the desire even though it's scary.)

If you break your "rules" you are filled with guilt. 

We create rules based on our family of origin and our childhood. We created rules based on what kept us safe as kids. 

Even though you're taking the actions to manifest & create the desired results, you're not getting there due to the guilt and vibrational disconnect. 

* Brief history of St. Valentine

10 Love & Relationship Values to hold onto/fight for/ be available for: 

1. Commitment Over Convenience
🚫 Dating culture: Promotes “situationships,” ghosting, and keeping options open.
💖 Fight for: A man who is willing to commit, invest, and build something real with you.
2. Emotional Maturity Over Games
🚫 Dating culture: Encourages playing hard to get, avoiding deep conversations, and being “chill” instead of expressing needs.
💖 Fight for: Honest, open communication where both partners can express their feelings without fear.
3. Masculine Devotion & Feminine Receptivity
🚫 Dating culture: Pushes women to chase, initiate, and prove their worth instead of being pursued.
💖 Fight for: A dynamic where a man leads with devotion, and a woman receives with trust and grace.
4. Depth Over Surface-Level Attraction
🚫 Dating culture: Obsesses over looks, status, and social media clout.
💖 Fight for: A deep, soul-aligned connection where you’re seen, loved, and valued for who you truly are.
5. Integrity Over Hookup Culture
🚫 Dating culture: Normalizes casual sex with no responsibility or emotional depth.
💖 Fight for: Intentional dating where actions align with values, and love is built on trust and respect.
6. Growth Over Stagnation
🚫 Dating culture: Encourages staying in your comfort zone and avoiding real inner work.
💖 Fight for: A relationship where both partners evolve, heal, and elevate each other instead of settling for mediocrity.
7. Healthy Boundaries Over Codependency
🚫 Dating culture: Encourages being too “easygoing,” ignoring red flags, or tolerating disrespect.
💖 Fight for: Boundaries that protect your energy, self-worth, and emotional peace—without guilt.
8. Sacred Love Over Transactional Love
🚫 Dating culture: Promotes “What can I get from this person?” instead of true partnership.
💖 Fight for: A divine union where love is given freely, not based on keeping score.
9. Loyalty Over Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)
🚫 Dating culture: Glorifies keeping options open, avoiding exclusivity, and always searching for “someone better.”
💖 Fight for: Loyalty, devotion, and choosing each other daily, even when things aren’t perfect.
10. Romance & Chivalry Over Casual Everything
🚫 Dating culture: Normalizes low-effort dates, Netflix & chill, and avoiding emotional depth.
💖 Fight for: A man who cherishes, pursues, and courts you with intentionality and love.

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1. Yes, Healing is Important—But Not the Only Path:   Doing inner work before entering a relationship is valuable. The partner we attract often mirrors our current level of healing and self-awareness. A relationship built on this foundation can be more aligned and mutually supportive.
   
   
2.  Healing Unfolds Within a Relationship: Being in a relationship provides unique triggers and opportunities for growth. 
   
   
3. Triggers as Mirrors: Small situations, like a partner’s actions, can awaken unresolved fears and insecurities. For instance, a partner not being affectionate may trigger feelings of rejection, or a partner taking a break might trigger feelings of financial insecurity. These experiences bring shadows to light.
   
   
4. Higher Mind vs. Ego in Healing: Discuss the role of the higher mind and the ego in the healing process. 
   1. The Ego tends to resist these triggers, wanting to avoid discomfort.
   2. The Higher Mind sees these triggers as opportunities for growth, choosing to embrace them and approach them with curiosity.
   3. Shadows that Only Emerge Through Partnership:
   4. Some shadows are only activated in a relationship. These deep-rooted aspects of ourselves, like the need for validation or security, often only come to the surface when we’re vulnerable and invested in another person.
   5. Curiosity in the Face of Triggers:
5. Adopting a mindset of curiosity when faced with triggers. Instead of viewing them as something to fix immediately, consider them as clues, gently showing us where healing is needed.

1. Definition of Energies:

• • Feminine energy: Flow, intuition, receptivity, creativity, connection.
  • Masculine energy: Structure, direction, action, decisiveness, and protection.
• These energies are not about gender—they’re universal forces present in everyone.
• Real-Life Examples:
  • Feminine energy in action: Being emotionally open, enjoying the present moment. (Just being…pregnant in boca chica)
  • Masculine energy in action: Taking the lead, problem-solving, planning.

2. Why Polarity Is Essential in Relationships

• Explanation of Polarity:
  • The magnetic pull that arises from the contrast between feminine and masculine energies.
  • How polarity fuels attraction and passion in relationships.
• The Balance Myth:
  • Relationships need a "perfect balance" of energies—it's more about fluidity and alignment.
• Common Imbalances:
  • Too much masculine energy in both partners: Power struggles and competition.
  • Too much feminine energy in both partners: Lack of direction and decision-making.

3.  How to Embrace Your Dominant Energy

• For Women Stepping Into Feminine Energy:
  • Tips: Practice vulnerability, nurture creativity, embrace intuition, and receive with grace.
  • Mindset shift: Releasing the need to control everything.
• For Men (or Women) Stepping Into Masculine Energy:
  • Tips: Cultivate confidence, set goals, lead with integrity, and create a safe emotional space.
  • Mindset shift: Balancing strength with emotional awareness.

4. . Practical Tools to Enhance Polarity in Relationships

• For Singles:
  • Reflect on which energy feels most natural to you.
  • Cultivate self-awareness of when you’re stepping into your masculine or feminine energy.
• For Couples:
  • Exercises: Daily rituals for polarity (e.g., one partner plans a date while the other focuses on presence and connection).
  • Communicate openly about how each partner can honor their dominant energy.

1. The Influence of Collective Resentment: 
   • Societal movements and the empowerment of women have sometimes led to subconscious resentments or judgments toward men.
   • Unresolved feelings around past experiences of control, betrayal, and abandonment can lead women to distrust or even subtly disrespect men.
2. Subtle Disrespect & Its Impact: 
   • Behaviors like playful mocking, judgment, criticism, controlling, and “mothering” can signal disrespect. 
   • These behaviors can wound a man’s need to feel respected and trusted—a need that is fundamental to the masculine psyche.
3. Understanding Masculine Needs: 
   • Men have an innate need for their thoughts and actions to be respected. When this need is unmet, it can lead to compliant, overly passive men or defiant, controlling, and even abusive men.
4. Wounded Energy and Attraction Patterns: 
   • Unhealed trauma in women can lead them to attract men they feel they can control or men they subconsciously set out to change. 
   • However, truly empowered men don’t allow themselves to be controlled or emasculated—they value boundaries and mutual respect.
5. The Power of Genuine Admiration: 
   • A shift in focus to appreciating men’s inherent qualities creates an entirely different dynamic. 
   • Celebrate qualities of the divine masculine: honoring his strength, courage, loyalty, and desire to support.
6. Practical Ways to Show Admiration: 
   • Notice and compliment these positive qualities in men. 
   • This admiration communicates openness and respect, making it more likely for a confident, self-assured man to respond positively.