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Ever notice how the biggest fights are followed by the most intense make-ups—and wonder whether that heat is proof of love or a sign you’re hooked on chaos? We dive into the difference between authentic connection and drama addiction, tracing how childhood experiences can wire your nervous system to mistake instability for intimacy. From the ego’s hunger to be chosen to the allure of fantasy over facts, we unpack why predictable care can feel “boring” when your body is trained to chase spikes.

We get practical about what healthy love actually feels like: grounded, energizing, and safe enough for real growth. You’ll hear the core markers that separate intensity from intimacy—consistent availability, mutual respect, and steady repair instead of emotional whiplash. Then we walk through tools that help you reset: mindfulness to catch the urge to escalate, low-stimulation routines to build tolerance for calm, and boundary frameworks that keep conflict productive instead of theatrical. 

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