When parenting gets loud—mischief, nerves, anger—what actually brings you back to yourself?

Rav Shlomo Katz and the women of Shirat David continue the conversation about love, but take it somewhere very practical: love as the daily mindset that quiets anger and restores perspective in the moment.

We explore why “hashkacha” tricks to suppress frustration often fail, and why the most effective preparation is what happens before the moment: training yourself to think loving thoughts throughout the day. Along the way, we learn from the “default emunah” example of Reb Leo Dee, connect this to Azamra (finding the good), and reframe success in parenting: not “did my child behave,” but who did I become when I could’ve lost it—and didn’t.

We close by opening the next focus: emotional investment in children, the tension between authority and hierarchy in the home, and how to keep parenting from becoming pressure, so it can return to wonder.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Sponsorship and Introduction

01:03 Continuing Last Week's Topic

02:07 Soul’s Three Garments: Thought, Speech, Action

03:15 Thinking Love: Machshava

05:07 Dealing with Child Mischief and Anger

07:09 Attempting to Suppress Anger (lehashkiach)

12:29 Extreme Faith Example from Reb Leo

17:51 Azamra: Recognizing Good in Others

22:35 Outcome Focus: Becoming a Calm Parent

23:46 Parenting: From Pressure to Wonderment

24:54 Finding the Real Outcome of Parenting

26:06 Defining the Perfect Goal for Our Children

27:15 Upcoming Focus: Emotional Investment in Children

28:47 The Best Friend vs Spouse Debate

30:41 Natural Love vs Deeper V'ahavta l'Reiache

32:46 Couples as Model for Mutual Love

36:10 Authority and Hierarchy in the Home

41:24 Practical Solution: Daily Loving Thoughts

44:15 When Parental Love Expressions Fade

45:15 Connecting Children to Their Souls

48:12 Guilt and Uncertainty Over Monitoring a Child’s Soul

49:17 Navigating Parenting in a Modern, Secular-Influence…

51:05 Self-Examination: Am I Poisoning My Child’s…

53:58 Protecting the Body vs. Protecting the Soul

55:36 Seeking Practical Solutions Amidst Parenting…

57:40 Balancing Authority with Humility in the Household