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Who decided love should clock in once a year? In this pre-Valentine’s Day episode of Brunch Behavior: The Pour Report, I unpack the myth of Valentine’s Day—how a rebellious origin turned into a performance, why captions started outranking care, and what it actually takes to build a relationship that doesn’t need an audience. This is a Sip Sermon for anyone tired of measuring their heart by flowers before noon and a post by midnight.

We start with the messy history of Saint Valentine and fast-forward to today’s romance economy, where Hallmark logic and social media timelines quietly shape how we think love is supposed to look. From there, I get into the real work: consistency, emotional safety, and the everyday decisions that actually hold a relationship together. Paying attention to stress patterns. Catching tone shifts. Choosing presence over performance. Because stability is attractive, peace is magnetic, and teamwork turns love from a highlight reel into a home.

To pull the message off the timeline and into the glass, I build the Everyday Intentions cocktail—bourbon for backbone, blood orange for brightness, honey for warmth, lemon for clarity, bitters for depth, finished with an orange peel. It’s a drink that mirrors mature love: soft but strong, grounded yet bright. Along the way, I honor Black community traditions of practical care—did you eat, text me when you get home, I got you when money’s funny—and push back on the idea that one date can save or sink a relationship. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to disappear; it just can’t be the only day effort shows up.

We close with a birthday shout to Jay, a reminder to support Black-owned businesses, and a plug for the Free Pour Pack and the Brunch Behavior Summer Pack if you want more stories behind the glass. If your relationship has been leaning on February 14th to do the heavy lifting, this conversation gives you tools for the other 364 days. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs calmer love, and leave a review telling us the everyday habit that keeps your connection solid.

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