Loving Everything

Drawing from his work documenting protests in Portland, reporting in conflict environments, and responding directly to human need through community action, Josh shares what most people never see:

• the difference between events on the ground and how they are portrayed

• ethical reporting and the responsibility of truth-telling

• the emotional impact of witnessing suffering over time

• protest, conflict, and the psychology of escalation

• food insecurity, systems failure, and humanitarian response

• burnout, compassion fatigue, and staying human in volatile environments

• masculinity, emotional responsibility, and relating to pain

• the line between documentation and exploitation

• how to care deeply without losing yourself

This is not a political conversation.

It is a human one.

A conversation about suffering, empathy, responsibility, and what happens when we stay awake to the realities around us.

If you have ever felt overwhelmed by the state of the world — or struggled to understand why some people feel everything while others seem untouched — this conversation will meet you there.

Now streaming on YouTube and all major platforms.

About Josh White:

Josh White is a conflict reporter, journalist, humanitarian, and founder of Heretic Coffee whose work centers on ethical reporting, humanitarian response, and documenting the human stories behind conflict, protest, and systems failure. From Portland demonstrations to international conflict environments, his work explores truth, harm reduction, and what it means to remain human in high-intensity spaces. Josh is affiliated with Independent News and Heretic Coffee, a Portland community-centered coffee project grounded in mutual aid and food justice.

Follow Josh:

Instagram / Threads: @joshjwhite @humanite.peace.collective @hereticcoffeepdx

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About Loving Everything:

Loving Everything is a long-form podcast exploring trauma, relationships, identity, grief, and meaning-making through honest, in-person conversations.

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Find out more:

https://andrea.love

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All production by Cody Maxwell

Artwork by Heather Grace Gordy

You can look completely fine…

and still be quietly struggling.

You can be capable, productive, dependable, and high functioning…

and still feel anxious, exhausted, depressed, or disconnected from yourself. I

n this episode of Loving Everything, Andrea Love sits down with Marriage and Family Therapist Kelley O'Gorman for an honest conversation about what happens when competence becomes survival.

Because anxiety does not always look like panic.

Depression does not always look like collapse.

And codependency does not always look like neediness.

Sometimes it looks like being the reliable one.

The caregiver.

The person who holds everything together.

Until the strategies that helped you survive stop helping you feel alive.

Kelley brings a grounded, evidence-based lens shaped by narrative therapy, family systems, brain science, and nearly two decades of clinical work helping high-functioning people navigate anxiety, depression, caregiving, and identity patterns.

Together we explore:

• high functioning anxiety and depression that often go unseen

• competence, caregiving, and humor as survival strategies

• family roles and how they shape identity over time

• codependency in people who never identify with the label

• when coping skills help — and when they become another form of control

• the power of hearing yourself tell your story out loud

• confidence and resiliency without performance

• what measurable growth actually looks like

This conversation is especially for people who look like they are doing well…

but quietly feel overwhelmed, lonely, or exhausted inside.

This is not a conversation about fixing yourself. It is about understanding what lives underneath overfunctioning — and learning how to stay connected to yourself without turning healing into another job.

Learn more about Kelley:

https://www.therapyisrad.com/

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About Loving Everything:

Loving Everything is a long-form podcast exploring trauma, relationships, identity, grief, and meaning-making through honest, in-person conversations.

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Find out more:

https://andrea.love

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All production by Cody Maxwell

Artwork by Heather Grace Gordy

Why do some men go quiet when life gets hard?

Not because they do not care.

And not always because they are unwilling.

Sometimes, emotional shutdown is survival.

In this episode of Loving Everything, I sit down with therapist and men's mental health specialist Dr. Miles Salisbury for a powerful conversation about attachment, burnout, masculinity, emotional shutdown, and the hidden cost of always holding it together.

For many men, competence becomes identity. Strength becomes performance. Silence becomes protection.

But what happens when the strategy that once helped you survive starts costing you intimacy, connection, and emotional truth?

Together we explore:

• emotional shutdown and overwhelm as adaptive responses

• attachment, masculinity, and early relational conditioning

• burnout, irritability, numbness, and emotional withdrawal

• performance, responsibility, and the pressure men quietly carry

• why vulnerability often feels dangerous

• the difference between overwhelm and unwillingness

• how shame and emotional isolation develop

• men's groups, accountability, and emotional language

• what sustainable, integrated change actually looks like

This conversation is especially for:

• men feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or emotionally shut down

• women trying to understand the men in their lives without abandoning themselves

• anyone interested in attachment, relational healing, and emotional maturity

This is not a conversation about excusing harm. It is a conversation about capacity, accountability, and what happens when survival strategies outlive their usefulness.

Learn more about Dr. Miles Salisbury:

https://www.milesaheadcounselingandcoaching.com/about

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About Loving Everything:

Loving Everything is a long-form podcast exploring trauma, relationships, identity, grief, and meaning-making through honest, in-person conversations.

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Find out more:

https://andrea.love

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All production by Cody Maxwell

Artwork by Heather Grace Gordy

What if safety is not something you find — but something you learn to build again?

For many women healing relational trauma, betrayal, emotional neglect, or years of self-abandonment, the world can stop feeling safe. But what if confidence does not come from reassurance or positive thinking alone — what if it comes from competence, embodiment, and learning to trust yourself again?

In this episode of Loving Everything, I sit down with Norther Emily — wilderness guide, forager, writer, endurance athlete, and founder of Wild Solitude Guiding — for a powerful conversation about fear, self-trust, nervous system healing, and what happens when we reconnect with our own capability.

Raised among the forests and basalt cliffs of the Oregon coast, Norther teaches wilderness skills through what she calls intimacy with place — helping people move beyond fear and learn how to navigate, forage, assess risk, and feel genuinely at ease in the natural world.

This is not a romanticized conversation about nature.

It is an honest conversation about:

• fear, anxiety, and learning to work with uncertainty

• why real skill changes the nervous system differently than reassurance

• wilderness competency and evidence-based risk management

• self-trust after trauma and relational injury

• embodiment, courage, and rebuilding confidence

• emotional healing through nature and place connection

• foraging, navigation, and reclaiming personal agency

• the difference between survival and truly feeling alive

• what wilderness teaches us about resilience, identity, and belonging

We also explore childhood, family systems, healing, self-leadership, masculinity, safety culture, environmental stewardship, and the deeper psychological question beneath Norther's work: How do we learn to feel safe again — inside ourselves and in the world?

This conversation is especially for women navigating:

• betrayal trauma

• attachment wounds

• emotional abuse or high-conflict family systems

• loneliness and identity loss

• nervous system dysregulation

• rebuilding self-trust in midlife

• learning to stop abandoning themselves to stay safe in relationships

Because healing is not only emotional.

Sometimes healing is learning you can carry yourself through the forest — and through life.

⟡ Guest: Norther Emily Founder, Wild Solitude

Guiding Wilderness guide • forager • writer • teacher of nature connection and wilderness skills

Follow Norther: Instagram: @wildsolitudeguiding

Website: wildsolitudeguide.com

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About Loving Everything:

Loving Everything is a long-form podcast exploring trauma, relationships, identity, grief, and meaning-making through honest, in-person conversations.

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Find out more: https://andrea.love

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All production by Cody Maxwell

Artwork by Heather Grace Gordy

You can be surrounded by people… and still feel completely alone inside your experience.

In this episode of Loving Everything, I sit down with therapist Kelly Pratt to explore a concept at the heart of real healing: undoing aloneness.

Because most people don't just struggle with anxiety, grief, or overwhelm.

They struggle alone.

Alone inside their experience.

Alone inside their emotions.

Alone inside their nervous system.

And that's what keeps suffering in place.

Kelly's work is grounded in AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy), where healing doesn't happen through fixing or analyzing—it happens through being deeply accompanied.

In this conversation, we explore what overwhelm actually is, how it forms, and what begins to shift when someone no longer has to hold it alone. We also move beyond theory and into experience, with a live, guided moment in session that shows what this work feels like in real time.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What "undoing aloneness" actually means in therapy and in real life

• Why overwhelm is often a relational experience, not just an internal one

• How the nervous system changes in the presence of safe connection

• The difference between explaining emotions and actually feeling them

• Why self-reliance and intellectualizing can keep people stuck

• How emotional accompaniment reduces overwhelm physiologically

• What people truly need—but rarely receive—when they're struggling

• How to stay present with pain without trying to fix or bypass it

This conversation is for anyone who has ever felt overwhelmed… and alone inside it.

You don't have to do this alone.

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About Kelly Pratt: Kelly Pratt is a Professional Counselor Associate specializing in AEDP, somatic therapy, IFS, and relational healing. Her work focuses on helping clients access emotional truth, reduce overwhelm, and experience deeper connection and self-understanding.

Learn more: https://www.guidedinsight.care/

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About Loving Everything:

Loving Everything is a podcast exploring trauma, relational healing, identity, and meaning-making through long-form, in-person conversations with clinicians, educators, and healers. —

Find out more: https://andrea.love

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All production by Cody Maxwell

Artwork by Heather Grace Gordy

We're told it's about chemistry.

About connection.

About finding the right person.

But that's only part of the story.

In this solo episode of Loving Everything, I break down what's actually happening when we fall in love— from attachment and neuroscience to the deeper psychological truth most people don't talk about:

You're not just falling in love with someone else. You're falling in love with who you become in their presence.

This episode explores the difference between falling in love and staying in love, why intensity can be mistaken for intimacy, and how early attachment patterns shape who we're drawn to, and why.

We also look at heartbreak differently.

Not as a failure. But as information.

Because the way a relationship ends often reveals more than how it begins.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why we are biologically wired to fall in love

• The role of dopamine, oxytocin, and attachment

• Why chemistry doesn't equal compatibility

• The difference between falling in love and staying in love

• What actually creates long-term connection

• Why some relationships feel intense but don't move forward

• How heartbreak reveals patterns, not just loss

• What it means to choose yourself without closing your heart

This is not about becoming cynical about love. It's about understanding it clearly—so you can participate in it differently.

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About Loving Everything:

Loving Everything is a podcast exploring relational healing, trauma, identity, and meaning-making through long-form, in-person conversations with clinicians, educators, and thought leaders.

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Find out more: https://andrea.love

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All production by Cody Maxwell

Artwork by Heather Grace Gordy

In this episode of Loving Everything, I sit down with KP Parks—therapist, healer, and midwife of the heart—for a conversation about grief, transformation, and what it means to stay present in the face of life's most profound thresholds.

KP brings a deeply integrative approach to their work, shaped by over 25 years of lived experience with grief, a background in midwifery, and a commitment to walking alongside people—not as an expert or fixer, but as a guide. Together, we explore grief not as something to resolve or move past, but as something that lives with us, in the body, in the nervous system, and across the lifespan.

We talk about: • Grief as a lifelong companion rather than a problem to solve • How loss reshapes the nervous system, memory, and sense of safety • Why grief can feel like a survival response—long after the loss • The role of ritual, creativity, and embodiment in healing • Identity shifts, queerness, and navigating life transitions • What it means to "midwife" someone through change, rather than fix them • Staying human, open, and connected in a world shaped by impermanence

This conversation moves beyond clinical language and into something more human—an honest exploration of love, loss, and the spaces in between.

KP works with grief, trauma, life transitions, and identity-based healing, offering care that is relational, somatic, spiritual, and deeply attuned. Their work centers those navigating complex grief, end-of-life processes, pregnancy and postpartum experiences, and major identity shifts.

If you've ever felt like grief doesn't "end," or that something in you was fundamentally changed by loss—this conversation will meet you there.

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Connect with KP Parks: Website: https://www.mithtracounseling.com/ Offerings include grief tending groups (virtual and in-person), trauma-informed therapy, and support for life transitions.

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About Loving Everything: Loving Everything is a podcast exploring relational healing, trauma, identity, and meaning-making through long-form, in-person conversations with clinicians, educators, and healers.

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Subscribe for more conversations on mental health, grief, and relational healing.

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Find out more about Andrea Love and her services here: andrea.love

Find out more about The House of Healing & Love here: thehouseofhealing.love

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All production by Cody Maxwell.

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Artwork by Heather Grace Gordy.

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Is wanting love actually the problem… or is it the thing we've been taught to question?

In this episode of Loving Everything, I sit down with licensed marriage and family therapist Nora Harrington to explore the experience of longing, attachment, and what it means to be single in a culture that often pathologizes the desire for connection.

We talk about the tension so many people feel between being told to "heal," "detach," or "want less" — and the very real, human need for closeness, intimacy, and relationship.

This conversation challenges the idea that longing is something to fix, and instead explores what it might be communicating.

We explore:

The difference between anxious attachment and a healthy desire for connection

How long-term unwanted singlehood impacts the nervous system and self-worth

Why our culture is uncomfortable with longing and emotional need

What happens when people believe their desire for love is the problem

How attachment wounds show up in dating, sexuality, and intimacy

The impact of cultural scripts on sex, desire, and pleasure

What it means to "undo aloneness" in both individual therapy and group work

How to reconnect with your body after rejection, shame, or relational pain

Nora's work centers on helping people move toward deep, meaningful relationships and a more authentic connection to their own desire, pleasure, and capacity for connection.

If you've ever felt like you are "too much," "too needy," or somehow doing relationships wrong — this conversation offers a different lens.

This isn't about wanting less.

It's about understanding what your longing is asking for.

https://awaketogethercounseling.com/

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Recorded in Portland, Oregon

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Find out more about Andrea Love and her services here: andrea.love

Find out more about The House of Healing & Love here: thehouseofhealing.love

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All production by Cody Maxwell.

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Artwork by Heather Grace Gordy.

Opening graphic assets by arakelov and Envato Elements.

What happens when the danger ends but your nervous system never gets the message?

In this deeply honest episode of Loving Everything, I sit down with Oregon native and U.S. Air Force veteran Grant Hohman to talk about something we rarely acknowledge in public conversations about trauma, mental health, and survival.

We don't talk about it.

We don't talk about what it feels like when hypervigilance lives in the body long after service ends. We don't talk about the quiet moments that can feel harder than combat. We don't talk about chronic pain, depression, emotional numbness, or the internal voice that tells us we should be "strong enough" to handle it alone.

In this conversation we explore:

• PTSD and the nervous system after trauma • Why soldiers scan rooms and read faces long after deployment • The connection between trauma, chronic pain, and exhaustion • The unspoken culture of "I'm fine" in military life • Self criticism, shame, and emotional survival strategies • What finally makes someone reach out for help • How healing begins when silence breaks

This episode is especially meaningful for anyone navigating trauma recovery, relational trauma, attachment wounds, betrayal trauma, depression, or post traumatic stress.

If you've ever believed you should be "over it by now," this conversation is for you.

You are not broken. Your nervous system learned how to survive.

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Find out more about Andrea Love and her services here: andrea.love

Find out more about The House of Healing & Love here: thehouseofhealing.love

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All production by Cody Maxwell.

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Artwork by Heather Grace Gordy.

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What if the real question isn't why violence happens... but what was missing long before it did

I sit down with Dr. Jeff Todahl, Director of CSAW & Associate Professor at the University of Oregon, to talk about violence prevention, childhood safety, and what it actually takes to reduce harm in real communities.

Jeff shares decades of experience at the intersection of child welfare, childhood sexual abuse prevention, intimate partner violence, community response, and survivor-centered healing. Instead of reducing harm to "bad parents" or individual blame, he makes a clear case for prevention as a public health issue rooted in connection, belonging, and support.

In this episode, we explore

• What childhood safety and wellbeing really mean in lived experience • Why violence grows in isolation and secrecy • The myth of "bad parents" and why shame keeps families silent • Why reacting to harm will never stop it and what prevention looks like upstream • What helps survivors heal when harm has been denied or minimized • Why adult children of emotionally immature or unsafe homes cannot simply move on • What to do if you feel overwhelmed by the scale of violence and fear • How to move one percent closer to safety and self-compassion when you feel broken • What youth say they need from adults to make disclosure safer • Why healing and prevention are inseparable

Jeff also speaks candidly about purpose, persistence, community based solutions, and what it takes to stay in the work without shutting down or disconnecting from your body.

This episode is for

• Survivors who need language for what they lived through • Parents who want support, not shame • Clinicians, educators, advocates, and community members holding heavy stories

If you grew up in chaos, high conflict, or fear, this conversation is a reminder that healing does not begin with forgetting. It begins with safety, connection, and truth.

Learn more about The Center for Childhood Safety and Wellbeing

: https://csaw.uoregon.edu/

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Find out more about Andrea Love and her services here: andrea.love

Find out more about The House of Healing & Love here: thehouseofhealing.love

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All production by Cody Maxwell.

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Artwork by Heather Grace Gordy.

Opening graphic assets by arakelov and Envato Elements.