Have you ever thought that forgiveness and reconciliation were interchange? One in the same? Have you even taught that no matter what someone does , you have only truly forgave when reconciliation proceeded forgiveness? This can be with family, friends, associates , whatever. That is a lie from the put of hell! One on hand , To forgive is to release a debt, to pardon the person and bless them. To let go of vengeance and any malice , wish them well and love them as God loves you. To have humility and admit that we all have sinned and deserve good things from God in spite of ! We wish that for them truly from our hearts! Other the hand, reconciliation is the restoration of friendly relations. Not all forgiveness will come with reconciliation. Both parties must be willing to humble themselves and repent, take accountability, go through the necessary steps and make the changes to restore the relationship to a healthy place! This requires willingness on both parties while forgiveness only requires one! Forcing reconciliation through false humility. False humility being apart of being prideful, a prideful disguise. False humility happens feel we owe it someone/ a religious duty to lessen ourselves (guilt being a tactic of the enemy) or because we fear the judgement of appearing prideful to someone else (people pleasing) so we “humble” ourselves. Doing a disservice to both parties and operating out of a false identity! That is not who God said you are! He calls you to stand! Stand firm in His word about you! His promises! The truth of who you are! You don’t need to not be you to preserve any relationship! And when God divides a relationship, LET HIM! Through conflict you will see what relationships are really of God! Some require more space and time . Do not fight and disobey God fighting against what’s best for your future and your identity in efforts to continue or protect a relationship isn’t for you in this season! God may or may not bring it back . Let God work it out in the way He sees necessary ! And sometimes the best option is to love them from the parking lot!!