Staring at a menu too long, rewriting the same text, or living in the land of maybe isn’t a character flaw - it’s a signal that your confidence got outsourced. In this episode, host Kristin Hamilton opens up about how that happens in midlife and share a simple, repeatable way to rebuild self-trust so choices feel cleaner, calmer, and more aligned with who you are now.

We start by redefining confidence as the ability to handle what comes next, not the pressure to predict the perfect outcome. From there, we walk through the “confidence loop”: make a small decision, follow through, witness your ability, and bank the evidence. I share my own post-divorce story - navigating every choice alone with two kids - and how doing the reps shifted my baseline from second-guessing to grounded clarity and ultimately solid confidence from within. You’ll also learn the brain science behind decision stress: why the amygdala hijacks your system and how breath, grounding, and somatic check-ins bring your prefrontal cortex back online.

Then we get practical. Use the two-minute rule for low-stakes choices, ask better questions that honor your values, and separate fear’s urgent shout from intuition’s steady voice. Try the expansive vs constricting body test to sense alignment before you rationalize it away. We also explore the energy side of confidence: releasing the need for validation, acting from self-certainty, and letting reality organize around your stance. To anchor it all, I offer journal prompts to reclaim decisions you’ve delayed and to practice choosing without apology.

🦋 If you’re listening to this and thinking, ‘This is me - I don’t trust myself, I feel stuck, and I don’t know what I want anymore,’ I work with a small number of women privately to help them reconnect with their inner voice, get clear about what they actually want, and start making choices that feel true instead of forced.

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