(keywords) (slightly edited version) new year’s resolution, modesty, truthfulness, assessing truthfulness, asking our heart, centre of the chest, open window, children playing, giggling, parents caring, Handel’s Messiah, retreat, extreme sports, abseiling, free diving, novels, movies, love stories, vulnerable, joy, enthusiasm, evangelical, conflation, falling in love, denied dukkha, sorrow, lamentation, pain, grief and despair, norovirus, collude with the collective assumption, 5 hindrances, demonize, kilesa, indictment, pistachio ice-cream and pecan cookies, eating distraction, sloth and torpor, freeze, backlog, rag, reintegrated, imagined fear, offended, turn off the news, compassion.