In this reflection I zoom from my most recent (and persistent) point of friction to discover some critical, macro Lessons to be respected. Supporting themes: Recognizing and accepting patterns; INTJ blind spots (concerning the social world); Critical Race Feminism; Friendship conflict across space and time. This reflection was inspired in part by Suryia Nayak (" Race, Gender and the Activism of Black Feminist Theory"). Trigger warning: I briefly discussed the tragic loss of life that occurred over the holiday weekend (#NolanWells). I'm sending my deepest condolences to his family and friends. Typology: INTJ