The Story You're Telling Yourself
Episode #2; Release date: TBD Hosts: Krista Gilbert, Emily Love, Emily Jamieson (EmJ) — The Transformation Triad
Overview
We all want to trust our own memory. But what if the story you're so sure about isn't actually true?
Most of us walk through life certain that what we remember is simply what happened. We trust our version of events. We trust our own feelings as proof. We build entire relationships, entire identities, on the stories we tell ourselves—and, if we're being really honest, we rarely stop to ask whether those stories are actually accurate.
We want the truth. Or at least, we think we already have it.
But what if you don't? What if the story running your life right now isn't the whole picture?
In this episode of the Make Life Count podcast, we're digging into the idea that shapes more of your life than you realize: the stories you tell yourself—and whether they're actually true.
We'll take you into a real, unedited family story—a poolside disagreement between Emily Love and her sister about their own childhood—and use it to introduce a four-part framework for examining what we carry: Facts, Feelings, Filter, and Freedom. We'll talk about why two people can both be honest and still remember things completely differently, how to tell the difference between a feeling being valid and a story being true, and what it looks like to trade an old story for a truer, freer one.
Our hope? That you walk away willing to question the story you've been telling yourself. Look at it honestly. Test it against the facts. Choose, on purpose, the story that actually sets you free.
Let's go to work.
Research & Resources Referenced
- Brené Brown — the "what's the story I'm telling myself?" practice, echoing themes from Rising Strong. (exact wording not confirmed verbatim against the book this session)
- Dr. Daniel Amen — "ANTs" (automatic negative thoughts) and the challenge questions "Is it true? Is it totally true?" (amenclinics.com)
- Jerry Sittser — theologian and author of A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss. (the specific primary/secondary-emotions framework attributed to him in the episode wasn't independently verified this session)
- Viktor Frankl — Man's Search for Meaning, referenced for "the space between stimulus and response." (this specific line is a common misattribution — Quote Investigator traces it more likely to psychologist Rollo May, popularized by Stephen Covey)
- The "three witnesses at a car accident" anecdote — popular pop-psychology folklore illustrating that divergent accounts can be a sign of honesty; not traced to a specific study or source.
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