What if the reason you can’t stop thinking about food has nothing to do with food at all?

And what if trying to control it is actually the very thing keeping you stuck?

Because what you’re experiencing isn’t a lack of discipline.It’s your nervous system doing exactly what it’s designed to do: protect you.

And in this episode, I break down what that actually means in the body, why dieting intensifies the cycle, and how healing doesn’t come from tighter control—but from creating safety inside the nervous system.

1. Protection Mode and What It Really Means

When the body perceives stress, emotional overwhelm, or any kind of threat—whether that’s trauma, pressure, or even food-related experiences—it shifts into survival.

In that state, everything changes.

The body begins conserving energy. Metabolism slows down. Cravings increase. And behaviors like binge eating or emotional eating can show up—not as a loss of control, but as a biological strategy to survive.

Your body is not betraying you in those moments. It’s adapting.

1. Why Dieting Keeps the Cycle Alive

One of the biggest misunderstandings is thinking that dieting is the solution. But from a nervous system perspective, dieting often becomes the trigger.

The body interprets restriction as scarcity. Whether that scarcity is real—like not having access to food—or imposed through calorie restriction, the response is the same: Protection Mode activates.

And when this state is prolonged, even within a few days of restriction, the body begins to slow metabolism and increase the drive toward high-energy foods.

Because in survival mode, the body isn’t trying to be “healthy.” It’s trying to survive.

1. Why Cravings Get So Intense

This is why cravings don’t feel neutral in these moments.

You don’t tend to crave light or low-energy foods when your system is activated. You crave dense, high-energy foods—sugar, fats, and combinations that quickly restore fuel.

It’s not random. It’s the body trying to bring you back into balance the fastest way it knows how.

1. The Three Layers of Protection Mode

Protection Mode isn’t just physical. It shows up across all layers of experience.

Physically, it can look like slowed metabolism and intense cravings. Mentally, it often shows up as overthinking and food obsession. Emotionally, it carries guilt, shame, anxiety, fear, and sadness that keep the system activated.

When all three layers are engaged, it becomes very difficult to “think” your way out of it. This is why nervous system regulation is the entry point—not willpower.

1. Safety Is the Way Out

What begins to shift everything is not control—but safety.

When I focus on regulating my nervous system instead of controlling my food, the cycle begins to soften. Safety can be created through presence, connection, slowing down, and even simple grounding experiences with pets or the environment around me.

It’s not about doing more. It’s about signaling safety to the body in ways it can actually receive.

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In this episode, I share a real client story that completely reframes how we think about weight loss, hormones, and long-term transformation.

This is not a story about restriction or quick fixes.It’s a story about time, nervous system regulation, identity, and deep internal healing.

1. The Story

I began working with a woman who was dealing with:

• PCOS

• Premature menopause

• A history of weight cycling

• Previous use of weight-loss medication

Her goal was simple: release about 20 pounds.

But what we actually focused on was not weight — it was her foundation.

We started with:

• Regulating her circadian rhythm

• Improving sleep quality

• Adding whole, nourishing foods

• Reducing reliance on fast, processed meals

• Supporting her hormonal system gently and consistently

No extremes. No restriction. No punishment.

Just consistency and safety.

1. The Turning Point

About six months in, progress felt slower than she expected.

Her doctor then offered medication support through a GLP-1 option, fully covered.

Instead of rushing into it, I offered her a different perspective:

What if we simply continued?

You can always choose medication later. But what if we gave your body more time to adapt, regulate, and change?

So we made a simple agreement: six more months of consistency.

1. What I Teach Instead of Quick Fixes

This is where most people misunderstand the process.

They want speed. But the body requires safety first.

I often explain it like this:

If you’re starting your health journey in a dysregulated state, it’s like starting a business while in debt.

Before growth happens, you need to return to zero.

1. What “Zero” Actually Means

Zero is not a number on a scale.

It is a state where:

• You are emotionally regulated

• You are no longer using food to cope, numb, or escape

• You make conscious, grounded decisions

• Food is no longer about control or restriction

This is the foundation everything else is built on.

1. The Transformation

Two years later, here’s what happened:

• She released over 60 pounds

• She never used GLP-1 medication

• She exercised less, not more

• She prioritized sleep over intense early-morning workouts

• She processed deep emotional wounds tied to divorce and fertility grief

• She completely shifted her identity

And the weight loss?

That became a side effect — not the goal.

1. The Real Root Cause

What actually drove her eating wasn’t food.

It was:

• Unprocessed emotional pain

• Identity rooted in struggle

• Nervous system dysregulation

Once those were addressed, her need to use food as a coping mechanism naturally faded.

1. Identity Shift

She stopped seeing herself as:

• Someone who can’t lose weight

• Someone stuck because of her diagnosis

And became:

• Someone who nourishes her body

• Someone with boundaries

• Someone who leads her choices consciously

That shift changed everything.

1. My Perspective on GLP-1s

I don’t see tools like GLP-1 medications as good or bad.

I see them as tools.

They may support some people, especially as a bridge — but they are not a replacement for:

• emotional healing

• nervous system regulation

• identity work

• behavior change

And they come with risks that must be understood before use.

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In this episode, I sit down for a deeply honest and meaningful conversation about relationships with expert Jonathan Van Viegen. 

We explore how identity wounds, nervous system responses, and past experiences shape the way we show up in connection, conflict, and intimacy.

Because the truth is…

Most relationship struggles aren’t about communication.They’re about safety.

1. Identity Wounds Shape How You Love

One of the most powerful concepts we explore is this:

You don’t just bring your personality into a relationship — you bring your wounds.

These are the quiet beliefs formed early in life:

• I’m not enough

• I’m too much

• I’ll be abandoned

• I’m not chosen

And without realizing it, these beliefs influence:

• how you react

• how you communicate

• how you receive love

2. Why Conflict Feels So Intense

Conflict isn’t just about the moment.

It’s about what your nervous system perceives is happening.

A simple disagreement can feel like:

• rejection

• abandonment

• disconnection

Which is why you might:

• shut down

• get defensive

• avoid

• or escalate

Not because something is wrong with you…but because your body is trying to protect you.

3. Separate the Person from the Behavior

A powerful shift that can change everything:

What someone does is not who they are.

When we attack the person, we create defensiveness.When we address the behavior, we create safety.

This sounds like:

“I didn’t like what happened, but I still care about you.”

That’s how connection stays intact — even during conflict.

4. Emotional Safety Changes Everything

Real regulation doesn’t just come from what you do alone.

It also comes from feeling safe with someone else.

When you feel:

• accepted

• chosen

• valued

Your nervous system softens.

And when that happens…connection becomes easier, and intimacy becomes natural.

5. Chosen and Cherished — Every Day

One of the most powerful reminders in this episode:

People want to feel chosen and cherished.

Not occasionally.Not when it’s convenient.

But consistently.

Because when someone feels that way, they:

• open their heart

• stay connected

• feel secure

6. Asking for What You Need Is Vulnerability

Many people struggle to express their needs because of:

• shame

• fear

• feeling like they’re “too much”

But your needs are not weaknesses.

They’re part of being human.

When you can say:

“This is what I need”

You create the opportunity for deeper connection.

7. Intimacy Is a Byproduct of Safety

Intimacy isn’t something you force.

It’s something that naturally happens when there is:

• emotional safety

• trust

• openness

People don’t just want to be loved…they want to feel deeply valued and seen.

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In this episode, I go deeper than the surface-level conversation around “nervous system regulation.” While this topic has become a buzzword, what’s often missing is the real foundation underneath it — how much your thoughts are actively shaping your nervous system state in real time.

Most people think of the nervous system as something that reacts only to external stress. But the truth is, it’s constantly responding to your internal dialogue.

1. What the Nervous System Actually Is

When I talk about the nervous system, I’m referring to the autonomic nervous system — the system that runs automatically in the background.

It has two primary states:

• Sympathetic (fight, flight, freeze):The survival state — mobilizing energy, increasing alertness, preparing for perceived threat.

• Parasympathetic (rest and digest):The recovery state — supporting digestion, repair, calm, and restoration.

While most conversations stop at heart rate, digestion, and stress response, there’s a deeper layer that gets overlooked.

2. The Missing Link: Thoughts Drive the State

I notice a very direct connection between my thoughts and my physiology.

When I think in fear-based patterns:

• “What if something goes wrong?”

• “What if I can’t handle this?”

• “What if I fail?”

My body responds as if there is an actual threat present. I can literally feel tension, tightness, and activation in my system.

My nervous system shifts into protection mode — not because of reality, but because of perception.

3. My Internal Set Point Is Everything I Consume

I now understand my “set point” is not just about body weight — it includes:

• Emotional baseline

• Stress response patterns

• Digestion and gut function

• Energy levels

• My overall sense of ease or tension

And this set point is shaped by everything I consume:

• Food

• Social media

• Conversations

• Environments

• Thought patterns

What I repeatedly expose myself to becomes my baseline.

4. Environment Shapes My Mind Faster Than Willpower

When I’m alone with my thoughts, I notice how quickly my mind can default to old patterns.

But when I intentionally surround myself with people and content that reflects what I want to embody — people who have overcome similar challenges or are living what I aspire to — my perspective expands.

It builds:

• Hope

• Possibility

• Strength

• Faith in change

Environment becomes one of the fastest ways to shift internal programming.

5. The Mind-Body Relationship

At the core of this episode is a simple truth:

What I consistently think becomes what my body rehearses.

• “I can do this” → creates movement and action

• “I can’t do this” → creates contraction and limitation

The body follows the mind — not occasionally, but consistently over time.

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In this episode, I walk you through what it truly means to take an anti-diet approach—and why this work has nothing to do with willpower, and everything to do with your nervous system, your beliefs, and your relationship with food.

This isn’t about eating without awareness.

It’s about understanding why you eat the way you do—and shifting the internal patterns driving it.

1. Why Restriction Triggers the Nervous System

Choosing not to eat something—like sugar or fast food—is not the issue.

The issue is how that decision feels inside your body.

When your thoughts sound like:

• “I’m not allowed to have this”

• “I need to avoid this to lose weight”

• “I shouldn’t eat this”

Your body interprets that as pressure—and activates the fight-or-flight response.

And when you’re in that state, cravings intensify, urges increase, and the cycle of self-sabotage begins.

2. Diet Culture & the Conditioning of the Mind

Diet culture teaches you to fear food.

Through constant messaging like:

• cut this

• eliminate that

• avoid these foods

Your unconscious mind builds associations:

• Food = unsafe

• Eating = lack of control

• Cravings = failure

And because your mind learns through repetition and emotion, not logic…those patterns become automatic.

3. The Identity Shift That Changes Everything

The anti-diet approach is not about giving yourself permission to eat everything all the time.

It’s about shifting from:

• “I can’t have this”to

• “I don’t want this right now”

That shift moves you out of restriction…and into choice, safety, and self-trust.

4. Returning to Your Body’s Natural Intelligence

Your body already knows:

• when to eat

• what it needs

• when to stop

But these cues get overridden by:

• dieting

• tracking

• external rules

This work is about coming back to your body.

Your signals are still there—you just need to reconnect to them.

5. The Truth About Processed Foods

Processed foods can create stress in the body:

• blood sugar spikes

• increased cortisol

• more cravings

But here’s the deeper truth:

The stress created by your thoughts about food can be just as powerful as the food itself.

6. Regulation Over Restriction

Instead of outsourcing your eating to:

• apps

• meal plans

• calorie counting

This approach focuses on:

• nervous system regulation

• internal awareness

• hormonal balance

Because your body is not broken.

It’s responding to the environment it’s in.

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In this episode, I want to take you deeper into something that so many people experience but rarely understand:

What really happens when a “cheat meal” turns into something much bigger.

Because what starts as one planned moment of freedom…often becomes a cycle of urgency, overconsumption, guilt, and starting over.

And here’s the truth:

It’s not about willpower. It’s about your nervous system.

1. The Weight of the Word “Cheat”

I want you to pause and really feel into this phrase:

“Cheat meal.”

That word alone carries judgment.It creates polarity — good vs bad.

So now food isn’t just food…it becomes emotional.

“I cheated.”“I messed up.”“I broke the rules.”

And that starts to shape your entire relationship with eating.

2. When One Meal Becomes a “Session”

I’ve been there myself.

What I thought was a structured “cheat meal” often turned into what I now call a:

“Cheat meal gone bad” moment.

Where:

• One meal becomes hours

• You’re eating past fullness

• You feel out of control

• And there’s one thought driving it all:

“I have to do this now… because I won’t be able to later.”

That’s not hunger.

That’s scarcity.

3. The Real Trigger: Scarcity & “Now or Never” Thinking

Anytime you hear yourself thinking:

• “I’ll start again Monday”

• “I’m not allowed to have this tomorrow”

• “This is my only chance”

You’ve created artificial scarcity.

And your body responds as if it’s real.

4. What’s Actually Happening in Your Body

When you restrict food — calories, carbs, fats, or entire food groups —your body shifts into what I call protection mode.

This is your survival system.

And it does two key things:

• Slows down your metabolism

• Activates a natural binge mechanism

Because biologically, your body is preparing for famine.

So that moment where you feel out of control?

That’s not failure. That’s a survival response.

5. The Cycle That Keeps You Stuck

Here’s the pattern I lived in for years:

Restriction → Craving → Binge → Guilt → Restriction again

And the longer you stay in this cycle:

• The stronger the cravings become

• The more disconnected you feel

• The harder it becomes to trust yourself

6. The Shift That Changes Everything

The goal is not to control food.

The goal is to shift your body out of:

• Protection modeand into:

• Safety mode

Because when your body feels safe:

• Cravings calm down

• Urgency disappears

• You feel grounded around food

7. Appetite Correction — Relearning Your Body’s Signals

Once you regulate your nervous system, the next step is:

Appetite correction.

This is where you begin to:

• Reconnect with hunger cues

• Recognize when you’ve had enough

• Understand what your body actually needs

Because after years of dieting…

You’re not eating from intuition.You’re eating from rules.

8. What Your Body Truly Wants

Here’s the truth most people don’t realize:

Your body doesn’t actually crave chaos.

When you feel safe:

• You don’t want to overeat

• You don’t feel urgency

• You don’t feel pulled toward extremes

Your body starts asking for:

• Real food

• Nourishment

• Balance

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In this episode, I sit down with stress expert Lolita Guarin — stress management expert, coach, speaker, six-time Amazon #1 bestselling author, and creator of the CALM Process, as well as Story to IMPACT Mentor. She helps people move from stress, burnout, and survival mode into greater clarity, self-trust, and meaningful impact through practical tools, honest insight, and lived experience.

Together, we dive into a conversation that challenges everything we’ve been taught about stress management.

What if stress is not something to fix — but something to understand?

Let’s explore how stress is shaped by conditioning, childhood environments, and the meaning we assign to everyday situations.

1. Why traditional stress tools fall short

I reflect on how often people are told to:

• breathe

• meditate

• take a break

• journal

And while these tools can help regulate the moment, they often don’t address the deeper pattern underneath — why stress keeps repeating in the first place.

2. Burnout doesn’t come from weakness — it comes from patterns

Lolita shares her personal journey from Lithuania to the U.S., where ambition and overworking became the norm.

Like many driven individuals, she pushed through:

• exhaustion

• long work hours

• emotional suppression

Until her body eventually forced her to stop.

That moment became a turning point in understanding stress as a biological and emotional signal, not a flaw.

3. Your stress response is learned

We explore how stress is not random — it is shaped early in life.

The nervous system learns:

• what danger feels like

• what safety feels like

• how to react under pressure

These early experiences create a “default stress lens” that we carry into adulthood.

4. Stress is not cause and effect — it’s protection

I share a different perspective from traditional psychology models.

Instead of saying:

“This happened to you, therefore you are this way,”

We explore the idea that:

“You adapted in the best way you could to protect yourself.”

Even responses that feel unhelpful today often began as survival strategies.

5. The nervous system doesn’t know the past is over

One of the most powerful realizations in this episode is that the body can continue reacting to old experiences as if they are still happening.

Stress is often:

• a replay of stored emotional patterns

• not a reaction to the present moment itself

6. Meaning changes everything

Two people can experience the same situation and respond completely differently.

The difference is not the event — it’s the meaning assigned to it.

Stress is often created in the interpretation, not the circumstance.

7. Regulation happens in real time

We talk about what it actually looks like to self-regulate:

• noticing activation in the body

• staying present instead of reacting immediately

• breathing and grounding

• reminding yourself: “I am safe right now”

8. Healing isn’t about analysis — it’s about new responses

The goal is not to endlessly revisit the past — it’s to learn how to respond differently in the present.

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If you’ve ever felt like your body is working against you…like you gain weight easily but have to fight so hard to lose it…this episode is going to shift everything you thought you knew about metabolism.

Today, I break down one of the most misunderstood topics in health — and replace the “eat less, move more” narrative with something far more powerful:

Your metabolism hasn’t failed you. It’s adapting.

1. A Slow Metabolism Is Protection — Not a Problem

A slow metabolism doesn’t mean your body is failing.It means your body is doing its job.

When your system perceives stress, restriction, or instability, it shifts into conservation mode — holding onto energy as a survival response.

Your body is choosing safety.

2. Are You a Sugar Burner or a Fat Burner?

Your body can run on two primary fuel sources:

• Sugar (quick energy)

• Fat (stored energy)

But when you’re constantly feeding your body, especially with sugar, it stops accessing stored fat.

This is what leads to:

• constant hunger

• energy crashes

• strong cravings

• feeling dependent on food to function

3. Metabolic Flexibility (What You Actually Want)

Your body is designed to switch between fuel sources.

But when you’ve trained it to expect food constantly, it loses that ability.

Signs you may be stuck in sugar-burning mode:

• You get hangry quickly

• You feel dizzy or lightheaded

• Your energy crashes easily

• You crave sugar constantly

4. Hormones Follow Your Nervous System

When stress is high, hormones shift.

• Cortisol rises

• Insulin becomes harder to regulate

Your body starts seeking quick energy — not stored energy.

And this isn’t about willpower.

It’s about survival.

5. Your Nervous System Controls Your Metabolism

When you’re in protection mode (fight-or-flight):

• your body slows metabolic processes

• you crave fast energy

• you store more fat

Because sugar is faster to access than fat, your body will always choose it when it feels unsafe.

6. Gut Health Plays a Bigger Role Than You Think

Your gut is responsible for:

• nutrient absorption

• inflammation regulation

• producing feel-good chemistry

When your body is stressed, digestion is deprioritized — which impacts how efficiently you metabolize food.

7. The Real Way to Speed Up Your Metabolism

Not restriction.Not over-exercising.Not control.

The shift happens when you:

• move from protection → safety

• regulate your nervous system

• reduce emotional stress

• stop binge-restrict cycles

When your body feels safe, it naturally:

• balances hormones

• reduces cravings

• accesses stored fat

• releases weight sustainably

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If you feel like your relationship with sugar is less about food and more about something deeper happening inside you… this episode is for you.

In this episode, I open up about something deeply personal — my relationship with sugar.

And I start with a simple question:

What is your relationship with sugar?

Do you feel like you’re addicted?Do you restrict it, only to find yourself coming back to it later?Do you notice cravings show up at night?Or do you feel like sugar is something you’re constantly fighting with?

This episode goes beyond labels like “sugar addiction” and explores what is actually happening underneath the behavior — in the brain, the nervous system, and the pattern of restriction and rebound.

My Story With Sugar

I used to believe I was a sugar addict.

And I don’t say that lightly.

I could eat an entire box of cookies without stopping.I could go through half a cake in one sitting.Sugar wasn’t just food for me — it felt like comfort, reward, and compulsion all at once.

I genuinely believed I had no control around it.

At one point, I was the “cookie monster” in my own life.

The Cycle I Kept Repeating

What I later realized was that I wasn’t stuck because of willpower.

I was stuck in a cycle:

• I would restrict sugar

• Feel “in control” for a while

• Eventually break the restriction

• Come back to sugar with even more intensity

And every time this happened, I would think:

“See? I have no control.”

But I was actually strengthening the very pattern I was trying to break.

What Restriction Actually Does

When I removed sugar and told myself I “can’t have it,” something interesting happened.

My brain didn’t feel disciplined.

It felt deprived.

And deprivation creates one thing: increase in desire.

The more I restricted, the more I wanted it.

Not less.

Why Some People Don’t Struggle With Sugar

I used to be fascinated by people who could have sweets in their house, take a bite, and walk away.

No obsession. No mental battle. No guilt.

For them, sugar wasn’t “forbidden.”

It was just food.

And that lack of restriction changed everything.

The Nervous System Response

When I combined restriction with fear — fear of gaining weight, fear of losing control, fear of failure — my body didn’t interpret that as discipline.

It interpreted it as threat.

And when the body feels threat, it shifts into protection.

In that state:

• cravings increase

• urges feel stronger

• high-energy foods become more appealing

• control feels harder, not easier

What looked like a food issue was actually a nervous system response.

The Shift That Changed Everything

I didn’t stop struggling with sugar by becoming more disciplined.

I stopped by changing the pattern underneath it.

I stopped feeding the cycle of:restriction → rebound → guilt → restriction

And slowly, my relationship with sugar changed.

Not through force.

Through awareness, repetition, and safety in the system.

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If you’re trying so hard to control your eating, but your body keeps pulling you back into the same patterns — and you’re ready to understand what’s actually driving it underneath the surface, this episode is for you.

In this episode, I go underneath the surface of overeating, weight fluctuations, and emotional eating patterns to explore what is actually driving the behavior — and it has nothing to do with discipline, willpower, or lack of control.

This is the truth about what’s really happening in your body, your emotions, and your nervous system.

1. What “Struggling With Weight” Actually Means

When I say someone is struggling with weight, I’m not talking about normal fluctuations.

I’m referring to patterns like:

• Repeated cycles of losing and regaining 10–100+ pounds

• Feeling like you are constantly “starting over”

• Living in extremes: on track → off track → on track again

Normal fluctuation (up to ~10 pounds) can be influenced by:

• Hormones and menstrual cycle

• Seasonal changes

• Water retention

• Lifestyle shifts

But true struggle is not fluctuation — it’s repetition of emotional cycles expressed through food.

2. Why Diet Culture Keeps You Stuck

Diet culture says:

• “Just be disciplined”

• “Just eat less”

• “Just move more”

But if it were that simple, you would have already done it.

The missing piece is this: Your behavior is being driven by your nervous system, not your logic.

3. The Real Reason You’re Overeating

At the root, compulsive overeating is often:

A way to numb, soothe, or avoid emotions I don’t know how to sit with.

Common triggers include:

• Stress

• Anxiety

• Sadness

• Fear

• Loneliness

• Boredom (one of the most underestimated drivers)

Food becomes a quick, reliable way to change how I feel emotionally — not physically.

4. Where This Pattern Begins

Many of these patterns are shaped early in life:

• “Stop crying”

• “Be strong”

• “Don’t be dramatic”

• Emotional needs not being met or validated

This isn’t about blame.

It’s about understanding: If emotions were not safe to feel, the body learned to escape them.

5. Emotions Are Not the Problem

Emotion is simply:

Energy in motion

Like a wave:

• It rises

• It peaks

• It falls

But when I avoid it, numb it, or distract from it, I interrupt its natural cycle.

So instead of passing through… it gets stored — and often expressed through behavior like eating.

6. The Nervous System Loop Behind Overeating

The cycle usually looks like this:

1. An emotional trigger happens

2. The nervous system shifts into protection mode

3. Discomfort rises in the body

4. The mind seeks relief

5. Food becomes the fastest regulator

This is not a food problem.

It is a state regulation pattern.

7. Boredom Is a Hidden Trigger

One of the most overlooked emotional triggers is boredom.

In today’s world:

• Silence feels uncomfortable

• Stillness feels unfamiliar

• Doing nothing feels “wrong”

So I fill the space with:

• Food

• Scrolling

• Snacking

• Constant stimulation

Struggling with emotional or binge eating? Download my free guide Calm the Craving: 7 Steps to Break Emotional and Binge Eating and finally end the cycle of out-of-control eating. Get Your FREE Guide Here: www.sherryshaban.com

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• Join our Facebook Community: www.myfoodfreedomlifestyle.com

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