If you are a person who views change as something done to you and out of your influence and control to define on your terms, then this writing is for you. You always have the power of choice and deeply knowing this to believe in your power of choices requires that you use some skills that humans often take for granted. Those skills include, noticing what captures your attention, pausing in that moment to identify the qualities that describe the experience of tension that are part of tension, reflecting on the habits that hold that tension as the enemy to stimulate curiosity that frees up choice about how we relate the conditions of our lives. 

This blog introduces four steps to practice in the week ahead to strengthen these skills and gain confidence in your power of choice in any domain of your life.