Today I learned I have to make the tough decisions. I’ve noticed a pattern in my life were I’ll be having the same issues with people throughout years. It’s always the same cycle. It’s was unfortunate when I came to the realization that I can’t expect people to change for me. But it was liberating when I realized that the person I could rely on to change for me is myself. This gave strength to push harder and be more disciplined than I ever was. But for a long time I had the unwillingness to make a tough decision. Specially decision were I would hurt someone’s else’s feelings. I hated how I felt when I felt marginalized by others. For me to inflict that on someone else would make me an oppressor in my eyes. But I’ve finally come to understand that no matter what tough decisions have to be made. There’s no way around them. I’ve found that the best way to make a tough decision is to simply write out the pros and cons of the situation then drawn my own conclusion based on my critical analysis. Upon deciding on the conclusion I have to then stick to it for the foreseeable future. In making tough decisions I’ve found that one thinks for themself, takes full responsibility for the decision, and in the mere act of seriously deciding one makes a higher quality decision. Writing out pros and cons of a potential line of action exercises one’s cognitive reasoning skills. The majority won’t do this because it takes pushing past work. But in my opinion it’s worth it becuase thinking for yourself makes you more of asset. It makes you a leader. One who sincerely makes a tough decision accepts full responsibility. Through making the painstaking effort to draw the best conclusion some peace of mind can be found in the decision. With doing so the consequence for the well throughout decision can be maturely accepted. Making the tough decisions in a sincere thoughfut way leads to better decisions. The negatives of making a tough decision is hurting somebody, being dead wrong, and being solely to blame. A lot of times in making a tough decision you have to side up with somebody and side up against somebody else. A lot of times the person you have to side up with is yourself and the other person is somebody you love. This can cause inflammatory conflict. When making a tough decision you run the risk of being dead wrong because there will always be unknown variables. There will always be a possibility that your actions were incorrect. Another reason why making a tough decision is difficult is because there is no one to blame. Your solely responsible. Whatever the consequences are you have to accept them. That’s just the way it is. But it is best to make the tough decisions. You can do so with love in your heart and avoid having someone else do it for you with contempt in their heart.