Zoe thought she knew what abuse looked like, but her relationship with John made her realise that coercive control and emotional abuse can happen slowly and be hard to identify until it's too late. 

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Manipulation: 'Five years on, I'm still afraid of my ex'

Catching you up on the biggest true crime cases in the news from Australia and around the world. 

True crime

In 1991, a vehicle was found in the bush containing the bodies of two women, Julie-anne Leahy, 26, and Vicki Arnold, 28. The police initially thought the unusual deaths were a murder-suicide. But three coronial inquests later and a very different story emerged, one involving Alan Leahy, Julie-Anne's husband. Bek takes Nina through this case from 1991 to now.
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Unsolved Crimes part 2: Two deaths, a husband and a hitman

A charming cult leader, a missing family, and an inquest that raised more questions than answers. Today Nina and Bek deep dive into the mysterious disappearance of Internet cult leader Simon Kadwell, his partner Chantelle McDougall, their five-year-old daughter Leela and their friend Tony Popic from Nannup in Western Australia.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Unsolved Crimes part 1: The Nannup cult mystery

Erin Patterson has been charged with three counts of murder and 5 counts of attempted murder after three people died from suspected mushroom poisoning following a lunch at her home. Bek and Nina break down how we got to this point and also discuss the thallium poison craze that gripped Sydney in the 1950s.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The suspected mushroom poisoning and why we can (finally) talk about it

As America reels from yet another mass shooting, Bek and Nina look back at Australia's history of gun control, from the Port Arthur massacre in 1996 to today. They also discuss the conspiracy theorists that are harming families, spreading misinformation, and potentially putting us all at risk.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mass shootings and the conspiracies to deny them

We're joined today by former homicide detective and current legend of podcasting, Gary Jubelin. Nina and Gary sit down to talk about what really goes down in the police interview room from the heartbreaking to the hilarious. It's a fascinating inside look into a world most of us will never see.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Manipulation: 'Five years on, I'm still afraid of my ex'

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