Today I want to talk about surrendering the outcome.

You’ve probably heard that phrase a hundred times.

Focus on the process.Enjoy the journey.Let go of the outcome.

It sounds beautiful when someone says it in a book or a video.

But when your life feels like it’s falling apart, surrender can feel almost impossible.

Because how do you not focus on the outcome when your bills need to be paid?When your life feels unstable?When you’re trying to hold everything together?

For the last three years, that was my life.

I was in this constant state of trying to figure everything out.

Trying to organize everything.Trying to fix everything.Trying to control everything.

I was transitioning out of working for other people and trying to build something for myself online. I didn’t even want to call myself an entrepreneur. I just wanted a little corner of the internet where I could do my thing and make that work.

But while I was trying to build that, life was happening.

A toxic relationship.Postpartum.My oldest child moving out and starting college.Financial stress.

And I kept asking myself the same question over and over:

Where is the money going to come from?

I could only work a certain number of hours because I had a baby at home. I couldn’t depend on my husband at the time. I was in my 40s thinking, How did I get here? Why don’t I have this figured out yet?

So of course I tried to control everything.

I tried to control my circumstances.I tried to control the outcome.I tried to control people around me.

I was basically trying to puppet life.

And the more I tried to control it, the worse everything felt.

My anxiety was through the roof.One day it felt like I was dancing with anxiety.The next day I was dancing with depression.

Back and forth.

There was no peace. There was no Camille. There was just this frantic energy of trying to make something work.

I was deep in YouTube videos trying to figure out the “right” strategy.

What do they say I should do?What identity do I need to become to make this work?

I was trying on identities like outfits.

And none of it was working.

The deeper truth that I didn’t realize at the time was that my energy was completely out of alignment.

My language was desperate.

“I need this to work.”“I need money.”“I need this to happen.”

It was constant urgency.

And when you live in that space long enough, your whole body starts to break down.

I had the shakes.I had stomach issues.I was crying all the time.

I isolated myself because I was embarrassed. I felt shame. I felt guilt.

And the craziest part is when I did talk to friends, I could hear myself sounding like someone who was constantly chasing the next thing.

“Yeah I’m about to do this.”“Yeah I’m trying this next.”

I had been like that my whole life.

Always searching.Always studying something.Always trying to become something.

More degrees.More jobs.More attempts to figure it out.

And eventually everything came to a head.

At the end of 2025, I hit a point where I just looked at myself and said:

This isn’t working.

My bank accounts were negative.My parents were helping me financially.My marriage was falling apart.

And eventually I made the decision to ask my husband to leave. Today I can say that with love because we’re in a different space now, but at the time it was chaos.

Absolute chaos.

That was the lowest point.

And oddly enough, it was also the turning point.

Because that’s when I finally said something I had been resisting for years:

“I can’t keep doing this.”

Up until that point, I would say I was giving things to God… and then five minutes later I would grab them back.

“Actually God, never mind, I’ll handle this.”

Control.

Constant control.

But in that moment I finally said:

“Okay. I’m done.”

I decided I was going to focus only on what felt good to do in that moment, and I was going to let the rest go.

Not perfectly. Not magically. But intentionally.

I stopped obsessing over the outcome.

And slowly things started to shift.

Nothing dramatic happened overnight.

But within days I got one independent contractor role.

Two days later another one came in.

Two weeks later one of my digital products sold.

And I remember sitting there thinking:

Wow…

Life had been working for me all along.

I was just fighting the current.

The best way I can describe it is this:

For years I was trying to swim upstream in whitewater rapids.

When I finally turned my boat around and went with the current, life started carrying me.

Now that doesn’t mean the mind stops trying to pull me back.

Our brains are brilliant, but they’re also patterned.

Multiple times a day my mind still tries to sneak in thoughts like:

“Girl… what are you doing? Don’t forget we worry around here.”

That old identity tries to come back.

But now I see those thoughts for what they are.

Sometimes I literally laugh and say out loud:

“Not today.”

It’s a daily practice.

Sometimes a multiple-times-a-day practice.

But the difference is that my nervous system is finally calm.

The frantic energy is gone.

And when you’re not operating from panic, clarity starts to appear.

I show up differently for myself.

I show up differently for my children.

I show up differently for the work I do.

Even this podcast is an example.

I’m recording these episodes because it feels good to speak.

I’m not worrying about the views.I’m not obsessing over analytics.

Right now I’m just doing the thing that feels aligned and letting the rest unfold.

And I can honestly say this:

Surrendering the outcome has been one of the biggest reliefs of my life.

It’s such a relief to stop trying to control everything.

So if you’re in a place where life feels overwhelming right now, I want you to know something.

You’re not the only one.

And sometimes the breakthrough doesn’t come from pushing harder.

Sometimes it comes from letting go.

Surrender doesn’t mean you stop participating in life.

It just means you stop trying to control every single outcome.

You do your part.

And you trust that life can meet you there.

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