As we develop trust with ourselves, we learn to create boundaries and value the boundaries of others. We allow for disappointment in relationships and use healthy communication to resolve conflict. When all goes well during childhood development, we use relationships to express joy, not create it. On the other hand, we enter the school of hard knocks when, as adults, we unconsciously rely on relationships to fill in the gaps of our childhood emotional needs. Rather than experiencing people authentically, we try to predict who can fulfill particular roles for us, and relationships end before they begin. This episode teaches you how to build optimal satisfaction relationships.