It’s a deep dive, y’all! Jen is writing a musical, Hayley has back pain, and both of them are ready to spill the tea. We got a listener q about “performative friends” — basically take friendship and make it fake as hell. We give you our research, definition, and some examples of where this manifests (hint: lots of Instagram stories). We also give you our best recommendations on how to handle this, if you have a friend who seems to just be performative. It’s rough out there but we can make it better!

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