James4:1
What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 

For most of us, our default position  is to think that the reason we are having challenges in our marriage is because our spouse isn't meeting our needs.

But in this message James reveals to us that the problem between you and your spouse isn’t because of what’s going on around you.  The real problem is what is going on within you.