In this episode Ashley and Alphonso tackle an interesting topic: marriage problems. They argue that there is no such thing as marriage problems, instead there are people problems that we bring into marriage.  We typically try to use  marriage as a “magical” fix or switch we flip to make our relationship perfect.  But then when things go wrong, marriage is the scapegoat, the focus of our blame: my marriage didn’t work. What we really need is to own our individual mess, work to fix that and then we can begin a happy, healthy marriage.