Marriage with Intention

When you’re raising toddlers, running a business and trying to stay connected as a couple, taking 6 days away to a retreat in the jungle might feel impossible or even selfish -- especially as a mom. But what if stepping away for your own growth actually made your partnership and parenting stronger?

In this episode, we share exactly how we planned for, pivoted and made possible Aman’s recent 6-day trip to a women’s retreat in Tulum, Mexico and what it really took to make it happen. From the prep (wall calendar, Costco run and a homemade advent countdown for our son) to the mindset shifts (on both sides), this is a behind-the-scenes look at how we support each other’s personal growth while parenting two young kids. The lesson: there's no perfect time. 

You’ll hear:

• What we did 2 weeks in advance to reduce stress (and set each other up to thrive)
  
  
• The advent calendar hack that helped our 3-year-old stay connected while Mom was gone
  
  
• The quiet mindset shift Tom used to stay calm and present during solo parenting
  
  
• How we handled the inevitable curveballs (hello, stomach flu and missed workouts)
  
  
• Why your own nourishment and identity outside of parenting matters so much more than people think
  
  

We’re not perfect at this, and the trip back home didn’t go as planned, but we’re learning to build a marriage where both partners grow, dream and thrive. Even (and especially) when it’s messy.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for wanting space … or struggled to get your partner on board for time away, this episode will shift something for you.

JOIN THE BECOMING YOUR FUTURE SELF: VISION BOARD WORKSHOP HAPPENING ON SATURDAY, JANUARY 10, 2026: https://www.amancostigan.com/visionboard 

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We’ve gone from “If it’s yellow, let it mellow. If it’s brown, flush it down.” to making our money work for us. But, the relationship with our money is an ongoing one that’s so easy to put aside or avoid when life gets busy. 

We’ve been meaning to review our monthly expenses, optimize our subscriptions and who’s paying what… but life keeps moving, and it just hasn’t happened. Until now. 

In this episode, we walk you through the exact process we’re using right now to get more mindful and intentional with our money as a couple. After attending the Rich Girl Era Money Summit In Vancouver, Aman shares what reignited her obsession with personal finance, what she realized was missing (spoiler: a one-pager listing our accounts, logins, and bill breakdowns), and the small changes we’re making that are already saving us hundreds.

We talk about:

• The $120 subscription shift we made this week (and how we’re tracking renewals now)
  
  
• Why “just calling to negotiate” isn’t always simple and how we made it easier for ourselves   
• How to stop defaulting to overspending and start aligning with your actual values
  
  
• The mantra Aman picked at the Summit that’s already changed her money habits
  
  

We’ve gone from turning off the heat to save a few dollars… to paying for a Porsche in cash. But this episode isn’t about extremes. It’s about intention. Teamwork. And looking at the numbers. It's the small shifts that build a life of freedom together.

Whether you're just starting to get a handle on your finances or you've been tracking every penny for years, this episode will give you real-life strategies (and a nudge of motivation) to get back in the driver’s seat with your partner.

🚨 BECOMING YOUR FUTURE SELF: VISION BOARD WORKSHOP: https://www.amancostigan.com/visionboard 

Workshop dates: Nov 22, Dec 3 and January 10 2026

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You don’t need more time. You need some silence. 

This is your chance to stop sprinting through the year and ask yourself: What actually matters most to you right now?

In this episode, Aman guides you through a powerful, reflective exercise that will help you decide your top 3 priorities for the rest of the year and finish 2025 feeling clear, calm and on purpose.

This isn’t about hustling harder or adding more to your plate. It’s about letting go of what’s not working, anchoring back into what matters most and creating space for the life you actually want.

You’ll experience:

• Simple reflection prompts that help you see how far you’ve come (and where to focus next)
  
• The exact questions Aman asks clients to clarify their top 3 priorities
  
• A real‑time pause to think, something few people ever do
  
• Why “presence over productivity” might be the most radical goal you set this year
  
• And one easy habit to keep your priorities front‑and‑center every day
  
  

🎧 Hit PLAY to pause the noise, get grounded and finish the year intentionally.

Want to watch it on video, see the slides and follow along in real-time? Watch the Be the Catalyst: Women’s Summit REPLAY ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/QvoYCv0wSks   

Grab Your Ticket to Aman's upcoming Vision Board Workshops: BECOMING YOUR FUTURE SELF: VISION BOARD WORKSHOPS (in-person and virtual) 

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It’s SO easy to overlook creating a life vision - one for yourself and one with your partner.

In this episode, we sit down with our past vision boards and unpack what’s come true, what surprised us and what it’s taught us about dreaming solo and as a couple. From the Porsche that magically appeared (after Aman forgot she even put it on her board), to starting a family, to yoga on a paddle board in the middle of the ocean … it turns out our future selves are always trying to guide us. We just have to slow down long enough to think and listen.

This episode is a roadmap for you.

You’ll learn how to approach vision boards in a way that feels grounded, not fluffy. Why Tom (a self-proclaimed skeptic) came around to making one. And how this simple, creative practice can help you and your partner uncover shared dreams, name unspoken desires and create intentional alignment – one image at a time.

Plus, you’ll hear about Aman’s upcoming Becoming Your Future Self: Vision Board Workshops and how she’s connecting women in these rooms from all over the world.

If you’re craving more clarity, creativity, and connection in your life and with your partner, this episode will help you get there.

Becoming Your Future Self: Vision Board Workshops (Virtual and In-Person) - GRAB YOUR TICKET NOW! 2025 and 2026 dates! 

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What happens after you built the careers. And then you walked away from all of it - with a 2 year old and baby on the way --- one month apart from each other?! 

In this deeply reflective episode, we answer another listener question:
“Do you ever think about if you made the right decision leaving your law careers?”

Because even when you’ve done the math, made the spreadsheets, built the runway and created a life people admire (and are also confused about) … That doesn’t mean the internal questions go away.

We share:

• What helped us actually make the leap (hint: it wasn’t just financial prep)
  
  
• The emotional cost of walking away from something we worked so hard to build
  
  
• How we’ve handled the waves of doubt and what we remind ourselves of when they creep in
  
  
• A rare moment at swimming lessons that reminded us why this decision matters so much
  
  
• Why the “worst case” isn’t what you think AND how the “best case” is better than we imagined
  
  

This is the kind of episode that will feel like an exhale for anyone who’s questioning the path they’re on, whether you’ve made a big leap already or you’re standing on the edge wondering what if.

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A listener asked us this question and today we’re answering it. We're spilling our most honest thoughts. 

The truth is: We’re not always cheerful. We’re not stress-free. We’ve just built a life that gives us more margin to handle the hard stuff. And we’ve trained ourselves in ways we’re sharing in this episode.

In this “Ask Us Anything” episode, we get into:

• Why motivation isn’t what drives us and what does instead
  
  
• The invisible mental load behind “staying positive”
  
  
• What we do daily to protect our energy, our marriage and our mind
  

We’re bringing the lived experience of two driven people who’ve chosen the road less traveled — and stuck to it, even when it gets rocky.

Learn about Aman’s “debt advent calendar” (yes, really) — and how that playful mindset helped her pay off nearly $100K of debt in 3.5 years.

You’ll walk away with a fresh perspective, a few laughs and a new strategy or two you can implement in your own life.

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If you're the planner, the doer and the one who holds it all together for everyone else … this one’s for you. Because somewhere between kid drop-offs, what's for dinner and your big dreams, you’ve stopped dreaming for yourself. Or you’ve resigned to thinking the best days are behind you.

In this episode, Aman reflects (and invites you to do the same) on: What do you want the next 10 years of your life to look like? And how do you actually create it?

You’ll hear the honest, behind-the-scenes conversation she and Tom had during his 40th birthday celebration (outdoor sauna, dreamy charcuterie and a little unexpected chat). She shares how their past decades have shaped them — from 100K in law school debt and luxury handbags to financial freedom and time freedom.

Whether you’re dreaming of more freedom in your week, a personal chef or a Porsche track experience (yes, one of Tom’s next decade dreams makes an appearance too), this episode is your invitation to zoom out, get honest, and start crafting a future that you’ve intentionally visioned and planned for.

Plus: the exact strategy Aman uses when she can’t see 5 or 10 years ahead and why she’s bringing it back this November due to popular demand (spoiler: Virtual Vision Board Workshops are coming soon!)

MARK YOUR CALENDAR: Vision Board Workshops by Zoom happening: 

Saturday, Nov 22 and Wednesday, Dec 3. 📣

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Road-tripping with kids doesn’t have to be chaotic - if you plan with intention.
In this episode, we’re sharing exactly how we prepared for and took a 16+ hour family road trip to the mountains with a toddler and infant. 

We’re sharing the 7 strategies we implemented that made it easier, more enjoyable and aligned with how we want to travel as a family. This is the behind-the-scenes of what it really takes to stay aligned as a couple and family while traveling.

We cover:

• How we used ChatGPT to plan stops that matched our values (think: nature, playgrounds and a small town ice cream stop)
  
  
• What we packed (and how we packed) to reduce stress for both us and the kids
  
  
• Why we involved our 3-year-old in the whole process and how that changed the experience
  
  
• How we handled the return trip when things didn’t go as planned
  
  
• What we’ll do differently next time, so the lessons learned
  
  

You’ll hear both the practical strategies and the small mindset shifts that helped us stay connected and flexible throughout the trip - even when our son gave himself felt-marker face tattoos!!

Whether you're planning your first road trip with littles or you want to make your next one more easeful and intentional, this episode is filled with real-life takeaways you can try on your next adventure.

We believe in traveling and adventuring WITH our kids and not waiting until "later". This is exactly how we do it and minimize arguing and fights! 

FB Group Mentioned in episode: Traveling with Babies and Toddlers 

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When you’re back in your childhood home, but you’re no longer the child you used to be.
You’ve done the inner work. You’ve slowed down, softened your edges, unhooked from the perfectionism and built a new kind of life – only to walk back into your parents’ house and feel like you’re 18 again. The jabs land harder. The comments pile up. And suddenly you’re snapping, shutting down or silently seething.

Sound familiar?

In this deeply honest episode, Tom and I unpack our most challenging visit yet to my parents’ house and the surprising ways it strained not just us individually, but our marriage. From managing two kids under 3 in a house where "making a mess" isn’t allowed, to unsolicited comments about our life choices (think: “lazy people order groceries”), to the constant hum of negativity and news, we found ourselves holding our breath – until we didn’t.

But we’re not here to vent. We’re here to name the patterns, process the tension and get intentional about what we do next and how we show up on purpose. 

You’ll hear what shifted for us, the exact moments that pushed our buttons, the real reason this visit felt so different and the practical strategies we’re now committed to as a couple. Including one you’ve probably never heard of (hint: it involves energetic cloaking 😏).

We know what it’s like to straddle generations, rewrite family dynamics and desire a real connection with the people who raised us — even when it’s hard.

If you’ve ever left a visit with your parents feeling angry, misunderstood or like you’re carrying the critical voice home with you… this one’s for you.

Have a question you’d like us to answer? Email it to [email protected] and we’ll answer it anonymously 

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You want to be investing your money, but where do you even start let alone get on the same page? 

When you're juggling work, kids and everything in between, it’s so easy to put your money moves (especially investing) on the back burner. You’re earning, you’re saving (a little), but when it comes to investing, the truth is: you feel overwhelmed and haven't started.

Most couples we know want more freedom, more options and more peace of mind – but no one ever taught them how to actually use investing to build that kind of life.

In this episode, Tom breaks down our real-life approach to investing, starting from when we were just figuring it out ourselves. No fancy words. No judgment. Just a clear, simple look at the steps we took and how we built an investing plan that worked for us and got us on the same page. 

Whether you haven’t opened a TFSA yet or you’ve only heard about index funds but know nothing about them, this episode will help you feel more confident about where to start and what to focus on next.

Inside this episode, you’ll hear about::

• The three types of accounts we used (and how to know which one to prioritize)
  
  
• The simple system that helped us consistently invest - even when life felt so busy
  
  
• How we built an “opportunity fund” and what we use it for
  
  
• Why you don’t need a finance degree to start growing your money

🎧 Listen now and learn how to start investing your money in a super easy way. 

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