Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. I’ve got some new episodes for the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about dating, sex, gender roles, and the meaning of masculinity.

The internet is a wonderful thing, loaded with more than enough information and the ability to connect with anyone in the world. And here I found myself with a gay man who writes in the woman’s voice for erotica novels and I needed to learn more.

Masked Man #24 is the Erotica Writer. We talk about the cliches we always see in erotica novels, that there’s a rich attractive man that somehow takes interest in this lowly woman who obviously works for him. And how this titillating content can bleed into our own desires for relationships in real life. Does it need to feel like a romcom to be worthwhile, or are we doomed to always be wanting to live out someone else’s sexual desire?

It makes me wonder, how much do I really know about what I’m attracted to, versus what I’ve been trained to think I’m attracted to? And even though we may think there’s every type of porn available on the Internet, maybe it’s not as accessible as we think. I hope you enjoy the show.

Ok yes, we all know there’s more to relationships than just sex, but with all the focus on how attracted we are to our partners, how much is it really about that connection than it is just checking off the box we set for our sexual fantasies? And to take this even further, are we being set up to all think the same one type is the one and only type we should all be attracted to? What does that say about us if we’re not attracted to the standard society has set up for us? This has been an exciting conversation and I hope you enjoyed it as well.

As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.