* When a conflict happens two things manifest themselves:

* 1) The issue.

* 2) The ability of the person to handle the issue.

* If #2 is good #1 will take care of itself.

* A relationally healthy and mature person:

* ** open to feedback and takes ownership of their part.

* ** brings complaints about behavior, not criticism toward character.

* A relationally unhealthy and immature person:

* ** not open to feedback and doesn’t take ownership of their part.

* ** criticizes a person’s character.

* A complaint is about behavior.

* “You did this. I feel this. I would rather you do this.”

* Criticism is about character.

* “You always do this. You make me feel like this. You will never change.”

* vs 18:21 - Peter asks what you’re supposed to do if someone keeps sinning against you.

* We are to walk in forgiveness based upon how Christ forgave us, not on the basis of the person deserving forgiveness.