In this episode, I’m wondering out loud: were women ever actually getting nicer, or was I just getting fatter? I thought we were done seeing each other as threats — turns out, invisibility can look a lot like sisterhood when no one sees you as competition.

We’re talking pretty privilege, and why I’ll never be the girl with a zucchero papi, and why I’ll always choose to fund my own lifestyle — even if it means sitting solo in the Amex Lounge.

It’s complicated — and maybe you really can’t have it all.